y2klives Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 So my girlfriend who isnt a big drinker went out last night and got pretty drunk. She started speaking with her ex who kept trying to kiss her. Eventually he kissed her on the lips but shes not sure if she kissed him back. She rang me straight after in tears apologising. I dont know wether I should make a big deal out of it or if I have the right to be angry as it was he kissing her and she didnt want to rather than the other way around.
Bryanp Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 I think you have a really good girlfriend. She immediately called you and showed remorse that he was able to get a quick kiss. I would let it go. It sounds to me that you have a keeper.
Crow9726 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 I agree...she did right by you. Thumbs up to her...to the both of you.
FryFish Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 I dont know... She KNOWS whether or not she pushed him off or kissed back... The fact that she felt bad pretty much means she DID kiss back... Its good that she felt bad at least... Bad that she drinks and kisses other guys.
lkjh Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Sounds more like she was getting drunk with her ex(which is wrong in the first place), they kissed and she later felt bad and downplayed it to you. Yes you have a right to be mad
Mad Max Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Alcohol is not an excuse. It allows people to do things they want to do sober, but don't. She kissed the guy because she wanted to. Seriously, dump this chick because this will only lead to bigger things.
hoping2heal Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 So my girlfriend who isnt a big drinker went out last night and got pretty drunk. She started speaking with her ex who kept trying to kiss her. Eventually he kissed her on the lips but shes not sure if she kissed him back. She rang me straight after in tears apologising. I dont know wether I should make a big deal out of it or if I have the right to be angry as it was he kissing her and she didnt want to rather than the other way around. She is clearly honest. I know a lot of people say alchohol is like truth serum. That is not entirely true. There are things I've done or said at the time (not related to relationships lol) that I wanted to at the time because I was under the influence of alchohol - they did not reflect how I would of felt sober. I think if you feel mad or annoyed, that is probably a pretty common response too. She was honest with you about it and I think the tears are a good indicator of how much you mean to her.
PegNosePete Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Why was she getting drunk with her ex, without you being there? She seems to have a boundary problem. She needs to fix that. But as others have said she owned up immediately which has to count in her favour, most cheaters would try to hide it.
lkjh Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 You guys are aware that most cheaters lie at first and downplay how far the cheating really went. Don't be so quick to jump in and say she being truthful. Give time
PegNosePete Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 You guys are aware that most cheaters lie at first and downplay how far the cheating really went. Carrots are orange but not all orange things are carrots. Meaning... Cheaters tell people "it was just a kiss" when it was more, that does not mean everyone who says "it was just a kiss", necessarily did more. OP's GF confessed immediately, I think this says a lot too. Cheaters who drip-feed will generally stew on it for a time, to plan their strategy.
chelle21689 Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 I agree with others. I wouldn't be happy about it but I'd forgive her because she was immediately upfront about it. I would talk to her about putting herself in those kind of situations though and I also agree alcohol is NOT AN EXCUSE. Whenever I'm drunk, I don't have desire to cheat, I also get paranoid about accidentally cheating LOL. I agree with the person above that says alcohol allows people to do things they want to do that they wouldn't do sober!
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