murah989 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 (edited) ....confused I hope someone can put all of this into perspective for me so I can calm down finally lol. A little backstory: I met this girl from plenty of fish and we were chatting online for a few days, nothing crazy. I believe we had a total of 3 e-mail sessions before she finally stopped contacting me ( she would read her e-mails, but wouldn't respond). I started to get really frustrated and sent her a " I have a feeling your not interested, hope things work out for you on POF". I deleted my account a moved on. About 2 months later, I found her on Facebook( she gave me her full name online, so I thought I'd see what she looks like) and decided to send her another e-mail asking how everything was going. About two days later I get a message from her including a phone number; also she asked about getting together sometime. Three days later, we met for the first time at an icecream place. We're both nervous, but everything went well and after an hour we decided to call it a day, but before we leave I asked her out again sunday and she accepts. The second date goes equally as well and I even get a couple of kisses on the lips. The next day I gave her a call and we scheduled another date for the following weekend, again she accepts and the date is made. At this point I'm super into her and I'm totally getting a great vibe from her. Me and her aren't the flirty type, but the tension just adds to the excitement because we know we like each other. However, I start noticing a trend of hers. SHES SUPER FLAKY!!! I end of texting her a couple of days later to say hello. We have a nice conversation and she asks me to hang out with her that night. "Cool" I said to her," Give me a call when you're free. 10pm rolls around and she calls me, " I just got off work but I'm super tired, I'll call you friday and we'll grab a drink". Friday rolls around " My Uncles in town, I'll call you Saturday morning". Saturday morning rolls around " I have to work on my applications, so I can't go out with you." Being frustrated, I asked her " look, you seem nice and everything, but I get this feeling you're really not that interested in me. If thats the case, its cool, you won't hurt my feelings =P". I get a text two minutes later saying how I'm coming off strong for just two dates. I decide to call her an apologize for coming off strong, and she tells me that she likes hanging out with me and that shes just busy. So i decide to drop it and move on with my life. Number deleted. I just find it funny, how I'm barely making plans at this point, and I'm the one who's the pushy one. I'm just following up on HER calls and texts! 5 days later I get a text " So when are we going to hang out again?". I flipping out with excitement! We scheduled a possible date that weekend to see the harry potter movie. Saturday rolls around and I get a call around 10:30." Yeah I just got off work and I'm really tired, so I don't think I'll be able to meet with you tonight"....BLOWN OFF AGAIN!!! I said " You don't have to give me any excuses, you're busy!, have a good night, call me when your free" I don't know what to think of this girl...at this point I'm fed up and want to move on, but its hard when they pull **** like this. Any thoughts on what I should do? Edited November 21, 2010 by murah989
Seamless74 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 dude i dont know what to think of you ... What are you doing?? seriously the fact that she didnt respond to 3 of your emails on POF and then you semi-stalker her FB account and than out of the blue she wants all of a sudden to meet and possibly date.. Man i dunno it sounds like online dating at its worst... I dont know whos being weirder in the whole deal you or her..?? Look bro some type of connection is cool I guess and you got a couple smoochies thats great too.. But some people are just undateable due to time constraints or logistics of flakiness.. Move on... If shes like that shes like that your not gonna change it and i think its a terrible personality charachteristic for a person to have ,,, just bounce on out of there...
Author murah989 Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 I guess I didn't say it correctly. Between both of us it was 6-7 e-mails spread out over 3 sessions. Trust me, if I had sent 3 e-mails and didn't get a response I would have dropped it so fast and admitted myself to a psyche ward =P
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