brown03 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Hi, I just wanted to know after a break-up how long after NC should you wait before you can move on and date other people? I have just been wondering how long should I wait before it is safe to go into another relationship. Also the same on the other hand how long should you go NC with your EX. How long after a break up do you think two should go NC and be healed enough to break NC and either start fresh or just start by being friends? I'm just wondering in any case how long do you think someone should go NC for to heal and even think about starting over? Or how would you know when your are both ready?
Ajax Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Hi, I just wanted to know after a break-up how long after NC should you wait before you can move on and date other people? I have just been wondering how long should I wait before it is safe to go into another relationship. Also the same on the other hand how long should you go NC with your EX. How long after a break up do you think two should go NC and be healed enough to break NC and either start fresh or just start by being friends? I'm just wondering in any case how long do you think someone should go NC for to heal and even think about starting over? Or how would you know when your are both ready? There aren't any definitive answers for these questions. The short answer is: when you're ready. I've been broken up with my ex for three months and NC for almost that long. In my case too much damage has been done for me to ever reach out to her. I care about her and appreciate the time we were together, but being friends is out of the question. As for moving on and dating again, I have a date tomorrow
SimonSerenade Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Let her come to you and don't push yourself to do these things, You'll know when your ready for a relationship, For now you should concentrate on yourself and if for some reason a chance at being happy comes along don't pass it up
jerbear Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 You're ready when you are ready. In my case, I got out and partied with friends. Go on a few dates just to do it. Regarding being friends with the ex, do it only if you feel you can keep the relationship out of it.
Author brown03 Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 I have been broken up for 8 months and NC for like 4 but we have text and saw each other once in that time because of mail,rent, and various other things we needed to take care of. I know that I can be her friend because we had that kinda relationship and aside from arguing a lot because I was unhappy with my life outside of her we were great together. But the thing is I want to be her friends but I dont want to break NC and ruin any chance of getting back together with her and end up making her mad because she isn't ready to be a friend. I don't know where she is at in the whole moving on thing she might not be ready and just get mad or upset. And I was just wondering because I don't know how to tell if im ready like is it OK to date someone when you know that if your EX were to come back you would choose her? Isn't that kinda mean to the girl your going out with? It's just weird because I feel like I want to date someone and that I am ready but at the same time I love my EX and really want a second chance.
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