sandcast123 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 I met a man last Saturday at a community service project for the homeless. We had some conversation at the end and he gave me his phone number saying we should go to a hockey game or take a walk sometime. I gave him mine too. He called the next day but didn't ask me out for a specific day. He lives an hour away. He mentioned that he could come up and take me out to dinner somewhere or I could come down there and we could eat dinner there. I was busy last Sunday so we didn't make any specific plans. I haven't heard from him since. I don't think there were any signs that he wasn't interested. Just not sure where we go from here. I am in my 50's and he is in his 60's - friends say not to call a man but I am not sure. He did give me his number...what would you do?
Sabali Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Be careful of the friends who tell you how to strictly operate in the dating world using rules that can potentially leave you lonely while they get to go home and sleep with someone. There are exceptions to rules and you must evaluate them on a individual basis and specific situations. In general, I am fine with a woman not calling me. I will just call her. As long as she accepts my invites and shows her interest I will continue to call. This man has offered to take you out on a date and has called you. You both are mature individuals. Call him. If your friends don't like it then they should let their significant others take you out on a date.
musemaj11 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 I met a man last Saturday at a community service project for the homeless. We had some conversation at the end and he gave me his phone number saying we should go to a hockey game or take a walk sometime. I gave him mine too. He called the next day but didn't ask me out for a specific day. He lives an hour away. He mentioned that he could come up and take me out to dinner somewhere or I could come down there and we could eat dinner there. I was busy last Sunday so we didn't make any specific plans. I haven't heard from him since. I don't think there were any signs that he wasn't interested. Just not sure where we go from here. I am in my 50's and he is in his 60's - friends say not to call a man but I am not sure. He did give me his number...what would you do? What does your heart tell you? I mean you are 50 not 17. You should have a good judgment.
Jannah Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 This man has offered to take you out on a date and has called you. You both are mature individuals. Call him. If your friends don't like it then they should let their significant others take you out on a date. Agreed. But in OP's defense, he seemed pretty passive about it. But, I do think OP can reach out at this point, and they can both both agree on a day to go out for a first date.
Author sandcast123 Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 My sense is that he is interested but knew it was a holiday time coming up - we had talked about me going out East to see my children/family so he might be thinking I am busy until after Thanksgiving. I thought about waiting until then but that would be two weeks after our first conversation and I didn't really want to wait that long. I am thinking that if I don't hear from him tomorrow, I will call in the early evening.
musemaj11 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Agreed. But in OP's defense, he seemed pretty passive about it. But, I do think OP can reach out at this point, and they can both both agree on a day to go out for a first date. Yea even if the guy is actually not that interested, what does the OP have to lose? She will at least have some nice dates instead of just staying home doing nothing. Simply consider it going out and having fun with a friend. No need to have high romantic hope from the beginning.
Vasmana02 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 its really a sensitive thing , so do as your heart say , not as your brain !!! its related to mind rather than brain , best of luck ........................................
Sabali Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 How exactly is mind different to brain? The brain is tangible. You can hold it in your hand. You can see it. The mind cannot be held. It is not tangible. You have thoughts on your mind that cannot be seen but you can physically act on your thoughts... hence the mind-body problem.
Author sandcast123 Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 So, I called him tonight. He was happy to hear from me and we talked more about our families, Thanksgiving, his past and mine. He wants to see me when I get back from out East after Thanksgiving and he said I should call him to let him know I am home. So, that's the plan. I think I will see if he is free Dec 4th - the weekend after Thanksgiving. Thanks for listening everyone. I am glad I trusted my gut feelings. He seems very nice and if that is all the further it goes, that's ok - at least, I am out there trying again.
Sabali Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Great. I am glad you called. What ever happens, at least you have the satisfaction of knowing that you did reach out to help get things moving.
Recommended Posts