steve777 Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 hi all, first post here, just needed somewhere i could get this out i guess. try and figure things out. she was a good freind in highschool, and i always cared about her, though we drifted apart over the years.. we finally reconnected and things were really great, we got to the point of her texting me many times a day, also talking on the phone and going out after all that as well, and everything was really great. last year i even helped her shop for christmas presents for her family and daughter. we got close and i admitted to always caring for her, that i thought of her over the years, and she admitted to thinking about me all those years too, said she always felt a connection with me. then we slept together, just one night....everything seemed to be great.....but then she kind of just walked away, her ex....they were together for 7 years and he played some headgames with her...and i think this had something to do with things . now its been a year, I havnt contacted her, no emails or calls....nothing ive dated a few women over this past year, both good relationships that just didnt work out..... but i still think of her from time to time....her freindship meant alot to me....and i wonder should i try and contact her again. or would that be awkward for her>?
sb129 Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Depends if she is single or not I guess- its more likely to be awkward for her if she is seeing someone else. You won't know until you actually do it- worse thing that can happen is that she doesn't reply.
threebyfate Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Steve, why do you want to reconnect with her? If it's because you still care about her in a non-platonic way, best to be upfront with her when trying to reconnect. If it's because you want to be friends with her, then, as sb mentions, you can only try. But the walking away with no reasons is extremely concerning, no matter what the cause. Done once, she could easily do it to you again, if you get close to her. She'll have to have dealt with her issues prior to even a friendship existing.
Author steve777 Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 well i did it. we chated for a bit, i was nervous...but it went better than i thought it would. we talked about things, I told her she did hurt me, but i wouldnt have contacted her if i wasnt over things...and told her id like us to be freinds again if that was possible.....if not now, if it was sometime in the future, that i would like that. wished her happy birthday (it was on nov 11) and she was suprised i remembered. but happy that i did remember... so i gave her my phone number and email address.....told her to call or email if she felt inclined and i guess thats all i can do.
Scottie Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Steve, Why did you not contact her for a year? I know she walked out on you but no contact for a years seems a bit extreme, I would have contacted her - even just to see if she was ok.
Author steve777 Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 its not that i planned to take this long to contact her after she did cut off contact like she did, i was hurt for a while....so no way i wanted to get in contact then, it would have been bad for both of us. i did eventually get over the hurt, and i started dating someone, and really just wasnt really thinking of her all that much.... had some other things going on in my life....like buying a house.... its just been recently mostly because of her birthday, thats the day i kind of started to think about her, hoped she was doing alright....and thought of contacting her again....but it being so long, i did think it could be wierd im not sure if she will keep in touch, but im glad i took the chance.
Brandi 2 Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 well i did it. we chated for a bit, i was nervous...but it went better than i thought it would. we talked about things, I told her she did hurt me, but i wouldnt have contacted her if i wasnt over things...and told her id like us to be freinds again if that was possible.....if not now, if it was sometime in the future, that i would like that. wished her happy birthday (it was on nov 11) and she was suprised i remembered. but happy that i did remember... so i gave her my phone number and email address.....told her to call or email if she felt inclined and i guess thats all i can do. That was the smart thing to do. Putting the ball in her court gives you both choices. By the way, next year her B-Day will be 11/11/11, that's neat:)
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