havehope Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 I really like this guy and he's the first guy I've had feelings for since my breakup. I've known/liked him for a while now, and we have expressed mutual feelings for each other. He lives 2 hours away and has plans to move to my city in 4 months for his job. He says he wants to be with me and start a great relationship thats been a long ways coming... in 4 months when he moves, not now because it would be a distance thing. True or false: 1) I'd be plan b because he could be waiting for something better between now and then 2) if you want to be with someone bad enough you won't want to wait - you'll try to make it work regardless of location until you can be together in a few months. I don't know if I should give it 4 months because it is hard to start a distance relationship but at the same time I want to date him bad enough I don't care about distance for a few months, so he must not feel the same if he is letting distance get in the way. If the feelings are there, why wait? Am I being too unrealistic? I think I'm so ready for a new man that I'm too excited?
SignalFlare Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 I can understand him not wanting to start a relationship long distance. Especially if it's four months away. It doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings for you, but it probably does mean he isn't willing to put a four month hold on his love life to wait for someone he doesn't even know that much about. I suggest you both continue on as normal with your respective lives, and when he arrives if you are both still single then go on some dates and find out if you really are that into each other. There's no sense committing to a relationship before it's even begun, even if you do have a history.
LittleTiger Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 As somebody who is currently in a LDR and living 12,000 miles from her SO I have to say I don't think he likes you enough. If he's only two hours away surely you'd be able to see each other regularly. Two hours is nothing and you could probably get together every weekend (or whatever, depending on your work schedules). For the right person, distance shouldn't be a problem - especially if you'll be living close together in only four months. Just my opinion.
Author havehope Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 Well I know him, and I've known him for a while, so I didn't know if it made a difference in this situation thanks for your replies
HeartOnSleeve Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 The way I see it is...if he liked you enough he would want to start something now becuase then in 4 months time, your realationship will only get better with him moving to your city. If he wants you then why wait! You deserve more than this!
lovebitme Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Word of advice..... just don't worry about it. Go with the flow for now and when he comes in 4 months give it a try and see what happens. 4 months seems like a long time but it will pass! It sounds like he's stepped out and is interested. I can't say I'd try to start up something big if I was in his shoes either.
Recommended Posts