true2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 We've been together for a few months. Just in talking about general things we've done I had known she did threesomes with a FWB guy years back. But we didn't delve into it (discussing pasts seems more her thing than mine; it's pretty much always initiated by her saying things without me even asking lol). Anyways, we were on the road stuck in traffic... And a cop car eases by and she looks over and nonchalantly says, "The guy I used to do the threesomes with was a cop. He liked to be in control." This was totally out of the blue. We were talking about something else not related to sex or cops. So I didn't even comment back but in my head I was like, "Uhh.. okk..??" So a couple hours later I calmly asked her if every time she sees a cop car she thinks of sex with that ex (lol) or if she was trying to hint to me that I should be more aggressive. She said "No." ..that I was even more aggressive but she just wanted to correlate the point that "cops like to be in control in there jobs and in other ways as well..." And even though I never asked she told me lots of details like how he was covered in tattoos (which I know she likes), hair color, how he would get the extra girls for their threesomes, and how they got together every time she broke up with a long term bf.
Mad Max Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 This girl is low class. It is completely uncalled for that she brings this up, especially when you never mentioned it initially. I'd break up with her.
make me believe Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Ugh that's just thoughtless at best, disrespectful & tacky at worst. I think she's trying to make you jealous. No one is dumb enough to think that they can bring up things like that in front of their new boyfriend without it bothering him. Tell her that it bothers you and ask her if she'd like it if you always brought up your past experiences in front of her.
deebeechrisyo Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 She sounds like a trashy bad boy chaser.
Author true2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 Ugh that's just thoughtless at best, disrespectful & tacky at worst. I think she's trying to make you jealous. No one is dumb enough to think that they can bring up things like that in front of their new boyfriend without it bothering him. Tell her that it bothers you and ask her if she'd like it if you always brought up your past experiences in front of her. I did. My last ex was a college vball player so I told my gf, "How would you like it if whenever volleyball is shown on tv that I say, 'when so-and-so and I f*cked...' " lol
SignalFlare Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 She's just talking. Some girls like to fill empty space with words. I wouldn't read too much into it. However, you should tell her it bothers you when she talks about her previous sexual encounters. If she continues bringing it up then you should probably move on.
NoLongerSad Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 The other folks are being a little too gentle. Your gf is being disrespectful to you. The only question is whether she's doing it as a prelude to dumping you, or because she wants to consciously/unconsciously stimulate more alpha/aggression from you. Assuming the latter, the correct response is not "tit for tat" such as talking about the volleyball girls. The correct response when she off handedly muses about how she likes threesomes with tattooed cops, is to pull the car over to the shoulder of the road, look her square in the eye and say something like this: "Listen you silly girl. I don't care what you did before you got with me. You're with me now and you're riding my joy stick now, not some dopey cop's. If you don't like what I've got then, get out of this car RIGHT NOW and walk home." And then make it stick.
lenny Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 There would be too issues here I want to comment on. 1. Details of past sex experiences: I don't think it's called for at all to give you any details. Having a general idea of sexual history is good but giving details is so uncool. For her next boyfriend, do you want her telling him all about you? 2. I think she's still into her cop. I would watch yourself with this girl since she also felt the need to tell you they hook up whenever she's single. This means their relationship is a long term one where he's always on the side and available (backup plan). One day you guys will get in a big fight and she wants to feel loved ... she'll be on the phone with the guy in a second setting something up. I would really run away from this one. More for #2 than #1. I know, I've been in #2 before (and I'm the girl, and I had a backup plan).
Author true2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 There would be too issues here I want to comment on. 1. Details of past sex experiences: I don't think it's called for at all to give you any details. Having a general idea of sexual history is good but giving details is so uncool. For her next boyfriend, do you want her telling him all about you? 2. I think she's still into her cop. I would watch yourself with this girl since she also felt the need to tell you they hook up whenever she's single. This means their relationship is a long term one where he's always on the side and available (backup plan). One day you guys will get in a big fight and she wants to feel loved ... she'll be on the phone with the guy in a second setting something up. I would really run away from this one. More for #2 than #1. I know, I've been in #2 before (and I'm the girl, and I had a backup plan). She said the last time she saw him was years ago. Oh well. Just the fact that she met him off myspace and kept a fwb relationship with that type of guy for a number of years (i think) is just a turn-off to me.
seibert253 Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Completely and utterly disrespectful IMO. I hope you let her know about how you felt about her "comments". If you're like me, you probably didn't. She's got issues that will manifest and blow up in your face later on, if you stay with her. Run, don't walk away from her
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 She said the last time she saw him was years ago. Oh well. Just the fact that she met him off myspace and kept a fwb relationship with that type of guy for a number of years (i think) is just a turn-off to me. Nasty! This girl is just gross. Seriously... find someone else!
Author true2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 Nasty! This girl is just gross. Seriously... find someone else! She was dumped last night. I just posted details in my other thread.
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