iOcean Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Hey all...my ex moved on after an endless roller coaster of emotions between us. She couldnt take it anymore, so instead of dealing with it head on, she cut off all contact. She recently met someone...I know I can't change her my mind, but if nothing is done, she will continue to go down this path. My post is at http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t254121/ Otherwise, any stories out there about rebounds and what to do about them when they involve you ex?
SimonSerenade Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Hi mate, Sorry to hear about your situation, It's awful when that happens, I wouldn't take it too personally though and I know you'll be thinking "Not too personal! was with her for ages", I'd think that too but rebound relationships never last and if they do its never for a long period of time, I've been in one twice, Once with a girl I liked but she weren't ready, Lasted 5 days then with a girl when I wasn't ready, Lasted 2 weeks then I went crawling back to my ex. I've had many of ex girlfriends have rebounds and come crawling back, It's just the way some people cope but use it to your advantage because whoever there in this relationship with, They won't compare to you and what you both had, They won't have the depth of history and that feeling of comfort she got with you, They always realise that and come crawling back.... People deal with things in different ways, Some people close themselves of from the world and deal with it with time and effort like myself, Some people like my recent ex of 3 years give the cold shoulder and show no emotion what so ever and deal with it in a hard headed kind of way and some people unfortunately like your ex try and replace what they lost and try to fill the void but once they realise only you match the peace there looking for to fill the void, They soon come back, It's just up to you to take her back. Personally I've never taken back anyone who's found somebody else after me, I was my ex's first and only time in the sack, We have a beautiful son because of it and I'd always take her back but deep down she knows what she'd be throwing away if she should sleep with anyone else or get with anybody else. All you can really do is be her friend, She's already done the worst and now you can deal with it emotionally and get it out the way with, Act happy for her and play it cool, Trust me dude... she'll come running.
Author iOcean Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 Thanks Simon. We had a mega strong bond for almost 2 years. And when I say it unravelled quickly, I mean it went super quick. I needed a few weeks to work on some things...when I came back to my senses, she put up her guard. Weeks of torment...then, like an idiot, I propose (had the ring for about 3 months)...she wept and kept asking why I could not have proposed just two months earlier...she WAS intrigued though as she wanted the engagement forever...she speak to her devil of a friend after being excited...bam, her friend said I "manipulated" her and that she needs to continue a life cleanse...things get ugly with us...I leave for 4 weeks and NO CONTACT...2 weeks into my trip, she reaches out to me...85 emails later, emotions are starting to show us both we still care...I come home, BAM...we meet once and she cuts off contact. She joined a new gym and running club - those effing freaks brainwash each other...no her devil of a friend hooked her up with a marathon runner out of town. Normally, I'd deal with - I dealt with a divorce and a child...but I sooooooo believe in this girl and how this is not her acting out. I'm at a loss of what to do. Im 3 weeks into NC, but I fear it's only hurting more than it's helping.
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