Confession of Love.......***UPDATE***

[H. Michele]

Ya'all are going to yell at me!! I was driving myself crazy wondering if he even got the e-mail or not, so I decided to call him to find out.

 

First he answered the phone, so that is a good sign. He has caller ID so he knew it was me. It is a bit a relief that he wasn't trying to avoid me.

 

I asked him if he has checked his e-mail. I was going to tell him if he hadn't checked it yet to just delete the last e-mail from me without reading it. I was pretty lighthearted about it. He said he had gotten it, but didn't know how to reply.

 

I told him I wanted to give him some time and apologized for calling, but I just needed to know if he got it or not.

 

He did apologize that we didn't spend any time together and said that he wanted to see me but he was busy and on the road all week. However, he didn't mention anything about my "confession of love".

 

I apologized for sending the e-mail and told him I should have waited to talk to him. I did say that that "I'm not sorry for feeling the way I do, But I do apologize for hitting him with it so soon and all at once". I laughed it off and said it was just hormones, but then said that I didn't have an excuse and I shouldn't have been so presumptious.

 

He didn't really say much at all. Mostly just listened.

 

I also told him that I didn't want things to be awkward between us now. And that I would give him some time to figure things out.

 

I ended the conversation by saying if he wants to talk or hang out, he knows where to find me.

 

That was the jist of things other than some casual conversation about the weekend he stayed pretty quiet and didn't really say much.

 

I KNOW I probably shouldn't have called him, but I do feel a little better now that I was able to explain the e-mail a little bit.

 

Since the intintal awkwardness has been broken by calling him, how long should I give him to reply? I think that it would be out of repect that he eventually shares what he is feeling at this point. Although, I know for a guy that is a lot to ask. Any insight?

 

Do you think I messed things up more by calling? The conversation wasn't bad, but he was a little quiet. I don't know how to read that. What do ya'all think?

[H. Michele]

For those of you that are just tuning in here was the situation (original post).....I can still use suggestions if you have any.

 

 

 

I'll try to keep this short. I've been dating thins guy for a couple of months. I felt strongly from the beginning that he was "the one". I been in several relationships (I'm in my thirties) and never felt life this about anyone before. But, I have been playing it really cool and just going with the flow of things. I didn't want to rush anything.

 

We were taking things slowly which was great. But more and more I was developing feelings for him. The last few weeks we haven't gotten to spend any time together. Life has been hectic. Last week he promised that we would spend some time together, but all week things came up and his busy schedule didn't allow that to happen. But, at the same time, he still went out with some friends. Well, day by day I got more frustrated with the situation. I am normally very paitent, but for some reason, I wasn't this time. Maybe it is PMS- LOL! Anyway, I tried to call him and because he was busy he cut our conversation short. Up until now, he has given me signs that he was interested, so I seem to think that he wasn't trying to blow me off. He really does care about me. After the shortened conversation I decided to send him an e-mail to explain the reason I called because I didn't have a chance to on the phone.

 

Well, this e-mail turned into a whilwind of everything I have been feeling. I told him I was feeling frustrated and then, to make matters worse, I told him how I felt about him. Including how I thought he was "the one" and that I was falling in love with him, ect. I KNOW it was way too early to confess all of that. Afterall, it has only been about 2 1/2 months. I'm kicking myself now! I don't want to scare him off, but I just couldn't hold it all inside any longer. I'm worried that I really messed things up by telling him all of that!

 

My question is how should I proceed. Should I make an excuse for the way I acted? Should I apologize? I sent the e-mail on Friday and I haven't heard from him yet. I'm not going to contact him until I hear his reply. I know he probably need some time to let things settle. Help me guys! What would you do if you were in my shoes? This is driving me nuts. I really think I might have screwed up the best thing that has come along in years.

 

Guys, if a girl confessed her love to you after a couple of months, how would you resond?? Any advice will be greatly appreciated!

[jenny]

1. lol - if you were an IRL friend of mine i would drag you out camping for a week, and let him sweat out not being able to get a hold of you. do you have someone who will do this for you now? call her!

 

2. he is probably just digesting for a bit. the next call should definitely be his. it does not sound too bad, actually. let him call or not call, just hope for the best while you get busy with other things.

[H. Michele]

Jenny: I know, I know.....*Hanging head in shame* I was driving myseld nuts. But I think it was the right move because it broke the awkwardness.

 

 

I do have great news.....He e-mailed me tonight! Yeah!! He said he has been really busy this week and things have been crazy. He apologized for not being as available as he wants to be and said he was going to try harder to make time. He did say that our "friendship" was important and he didn't want to loose that. I'm taking that as sign that maybe he wants to cool off on the romantic part a little, but I'll take it. I was so afraid that I messed up. I think I'm more happy to have him in my life as a friend than not at all. I figured the romantic stuff will happen eventually when and if the time is right. I know now, not to push things. He knows how I feel now.

 

Thank you all for your advice. It really helped me to see things clearer. Love ya all!