RandomGuy01 Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Well, I've met this girl that I really like. I know that it can be hard when you first meet someone to separate out your feelings of infatuation vs. anything more sensible, but it seems like we really could have potential. We've been on three actual dates so far and we've ended up talking 3-5 hours every night now for two weeks. We both really enjoy being together. The thing is, I have to admit that I wasn't completely honest to her about something. I don't know what the hell I was thinking. She indicated to me when we first met that she wasn't really interested in dating someone that lived more than 50 miles from her. At this exact moment, I live about 70 miles from her. The thing is, and this is the absolute truth, my lease is up in Jan. and I'm actually moving within around 20 minutes of where she lives, so like a complete idiot, I told just lied to her about where I lived (thinking, well, what does it matter since I'm moving closer in a month). I didn't tell her I lived 10 minutes from her or anything, but I told her I lived within her range (I guess I was being stupid and thought that she'd just walk off right then). Anyway, I now realize that was a huge mistake -- maybe the biggest mistake I've made in a long time. I really like her and I know I've been dishonest to her and its really bothering me. Like I said, in Jan., I will actually live within twenty minutes of her (about 10 miles). Still, I'm kicking myself hard over this. At this point, I really feel like I just have to tell her. I'm normally very honest and I actually feel sick about having lied. I'm pretty sure though that that will be the end of it -- I don't expect she will want to continue to see me and honestly, I don't blame her, since I wasn't honest with her. Well, not sure what I was really looking for here. Just wanted to get that out in the open I guess. I wonder if there is any hope for things to still somehow workout? Anyone ever done something super stupid like this?
veggirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 This is hardly an unforgivable offense. Tell her the truth and apologize and explain that you assumed she would immediately write you off for not being in her desired area, but since you are moving there in January anyway, and wanted to get to know her, you lied.
SignalFlare Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Yeah I wouldn't worry about it too much. Sure you lied about your situation but it was because you liked her and didn't want to lose her before you had a chance. It's almost flattering.
daphne Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Anyone ever done something super stupid like this? Some of my exes have, just to start a relationship. Not that it's excusable, but a lot of guys lie when they like a girl if they perceive they won't get their foot in the door otherwise. Yours is excusable if it's not a pattern of behavior. Just let her know the truth, don't overblow it but let her know you feel stupid for lying but that you're moving soon.
stamfordman Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 I lied where I worked for financial reasons. I wanted her to like me for ME not what I make. When she found out, she blew her top. The relationship started to die off and it ended (granted by me) about a month later. Not sure why what I do was such a big deal though. It's not like I was in the mafia. Women are hard to figure.
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