mhertz Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 So my ex-girlfriend and i broke up about a month ago. We had been together for about a year and just gone long distance 3 months ago. So there was this guy she helped with his english homework. She would go over to his dorm and help him for about an hour every few days. I knew she had been going over there and i knew nothing would happen because i knew i could trust her. But after about 5 days of going over there she finally said that he had been making moves on her. Like he would hold her and touch her etc. It wasn't until that he tried to kiss her and grope her (which i never even tried) that she finally told me. So we both took this kind of hard. She felt terrible for letting this happen and i felt kind of betrayed. She cut all contact with the guy and removed him from facebook. Now she's a music major in college so she has to do the marching band pretty much everyday, practice tons of music, and study for all of her other classes too. She also has to maintain all A's in her classes to keep her financial aid. She is also one of those persons who worries a lot about everything. So on top of all of that to worry about, she still had pretty bad family problems and she worried about me too. Not that she didn't trust me or anything.. But we barely had any time for each other. I also had marching band everyday and my own grades to keep up with. Over the course of about a week or 2 she would get sick and not be able to eat or get any of her school work done because she felt so guilty. She kept trying to make things better but i had been so busy that i didn't have much time to think about it. Eventually, i had some time and i realized that she was truly sorry but i still had some back and forth feelings. One day i would be happy talking to her and maybe the next day i would be kind of mad/sad/distant. So she finally said she can't keep going back with my back and forth feelings. She couldn't concentrate on anything and just spent her whole time crying and being sick. She had been trying hard to fix us but i had been way too busy and stressed to cooperate. So i told her i would make time for us and try as hard as i can to fix us again. This is when she said we should break up. She said we needed time apart to concentrate on what we need to at the moment. She said she didn't need a relationship right now and that she wouldn't be looking for another one. At first, i was devastated but then an hour later i agreed with her. She said if we were meant to be that we would be together again. She said she still wanted to visit me whenever she comes home and go running sometime. Before all of this, we were both eachother's best friend. It's so hard to go without talking to her. We used to be so incredibly happy with each other and got along so well. We would talk all of the time and agree on everything. We never argued. We both thought we were absolutely perfect for each other and would spend forever together. But the last time we had ever spent time with or actually just talked with each other was a month before we broke up. I sent her a text a few days after we broke up just telling her i hope everything is going well and that i am praying for her. She replied with a mere "Thank you" which is unlike her. But other than that, there has been no contact at all since the break up a month ago. I still feel like we could work. This was the first major thing that has happened between us.. And we both kind of freaked out about it. I don't want to throw it all away just because of this. And maybe just merely seeing each other for the first time in months will reignite some of the spark we had. Or i could be getting false hope.. But either way it would help me sleep better at night knowing that i at least tried for a second chance. I still love her and miss her but i'm also ready to move on if things shouldn't work. Now that both of our schedules have calmed down and we've had time to sort out our feelings, i'm thinking about calling her. She's coming home for Thanksgiving in a few days and i wanted to see if she wanted to hang out or something. Would this be a good idea? Thanks for reading all of this and i hope it all made sense haha
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