amythan Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Hi - I know some of you are not big fans of expressing things which can make you appear as insecure but I do not know what do here .. This is a long distance thing so it is not like we have lots of opportunities to see each other. We have been together for several months but agreed to keep it casual. At some point he pulled away and after he told me that this was being too intense and fast .. Fair enough but he forgot to inform me about that and let me wonder what was going on during one month .. Now he seems to be back. He is inviting me for dinner on Thursday. He made clear that he cannot wait to see me and blah blah The problem is, I like him very much, i feel happy when we are together and i know he cares about me but something is broken. His behavior made me feel insecure, and i feel that i am so easy that he can change his mind and i am there waiting ... Maybe he had genuine reasons but i feel powerless and passive. Should I talk to him about this ? Would it make me appear as crazy, needy .. ? I do not want to scare him but i think i will also have the fear that he do it again ... Thank you !!
Author amythan Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 It is weird because I was dying to see him and now I do not even know if it is a good idea. I do not want to act as if nothing happened but I do not want to scare him either. I am sure he will try to sleep with me but this is simply impossible. I would feel terrible the day after.
SignalFlare Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 It's the first time this happened so give it another chance. He seems genuinely interested in you. Also, it's good to be aware of your tendencies to go to "intense and fast" in a relationship, but ultimately if he backs off again then there's a fundamental personality conflict and you should find someone who is more compatible with your approach to relationships. Do not sleep with him yet.
Author amythan Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 Yes, you are right about not sleeping with him yet ! It was very intense and fast but I must say it was on both sides. Anyway I will give it a try and see where it goes
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