eerie_reverie Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 (edited) The one I dated 4 years ago. The only person I've ever felt close to. Edited November 20, 2010 by eerie_reverie
xpaperxcutx Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Why does your ex still have your number?
Raderick Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Why does your ex still have your number? FWIW I still have the phone numbers for all of my ex's. You never know when you'll need them for whatever reason. Plus I'm not good at remembering who called me at what number, in case they do call me. (note: I don't delete phone numbers at all)
Scott Clifford Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 I'm jealous but happy for you. I hope good things will happen to all of us.
threebyfate Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 *patiently waits for details AND punchline*
Author eerie_reverie Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 Haha, no punchline here. He was drunk, I was drunk. I was really happy to hear from him. According to my call log we chatted for half an hour. I am visiting my college town (where he still lives) in Feb and he seems really excited to see me. He talked about all the places he wanted to take me to eat. I NEVER thought I would see him again.
threebyfate Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Yes there is! You were both drunk. Have a few phone convos with him while both sober before getting too excited about this. But if the magic is still there after 4 years, hey, why not see where this might lead.
e.clipse Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 aw, that's sweet. how long ago did you last hear from him/see him? i forget.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 FWIW I still have the phone numbers for all of my ex's. You never know when you'll need them for whatever reason. Plus I'm not good at remembering who called me at what number, in case they do call me. (note: I don't delete phone numbers at all) Are you friends with all of them? That I may understand. However, I'm not with my ex, so I don't feel the need to keep his number. Besides, what is there to talk about? There's no chance of a reconcilation, and I doubt I would want to be a booty call either.
Author eerie_reverie Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 (edited) Yes there is! You were both drunk. Have a few phone convos with him while both sober before getting too excited about this. But if the magic is still there after 4 years, hey, why not see where this might lead. I guess what I'm failing to mention is that we've actually been chatting online for a year or so; lately, nearly every day. But to me, instant messaging is more of a fantasy form of communication, so I wasn't taking it too seriously. It was nice to be back in touch after 2 or so years of NC, but that's all. This is the first time I heard his voice in 4 years. The odd thing is, even though it's been so long, our conversation didn't skip a beat. We did that thing we always do where we yell everything we are thinking into the phone, and the other analyzes it. I had forgotten about that. Edited November 20, 2010 by eerie_reverie
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Why did you guys break up? I forget, if you ever mentioned it. I'm excited for you.
threebyfate Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Sometimes eerie, you're so eccentric. And I don't mean that in an insulting way. The yelling/analytics thing is too funny.
Author eerie_reverie Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 (edited) Why did you guys break up? I forget, if you ever mentioned it. I'm excited for you. This is where loveshack is amazing. I dug up my old threads (from early 2006) about the breakup and my behavior astonishes me. I am crazy now but between the ages of 18 to 20, I was certifiable. We fought a lot. We broke up because he could not handle the fighting any longer and wanted to be alone. Neither of us have had any serious relationships since then. Example of a fight: -I am at home in anther state for New Years -he calls me. I am busy so I tell him I will call him back. -I wait for him to call me at my midnight -he doesn't, so I'm pissed -I log on FB and see an innocuous message to him from another girl. FYI, they really were JUST FRIENDS, and she was the only female friend that he had. -I flip out, don't call him back, and ignore the 5 calls from him later that night I was a complete and utter nightmare to deal with. I expected him to read my mind (which he often did), I set traps for him to prove his love to me (because I loved the way it felt), and I would punish him as terribly as possible each time he failed. I don't want to take all the blame, as he could have communicated better, but I have no idea how or why he put up with me for as long as he did. I have a lot of guilt about the way I treated him. I knew I loved him but I didn't know what that should have meant in terms of my behavior. I would never put someone through the s!ht I put him through, now. I was heartbroken for a long time after he left me, and I'm still sure I won't find that level of connection with anyone else. Even if we don't wind up back together, I would be really happy if we could forgive each other. Edited November 21, 2010 by eerie_reverie
Els Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 I think it's great that you've matured since then and that he contacted you. I'm pretty sure that you should be able to forgive each other if you've both truly changed... and from then on, who knows where it could lead to? Good luck!
Raderick Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Are you friends with all of them? That I may understand. However, I'm not with my ex, so I don't feel the need to keep his number. Besides, what is there to talk about? There's no chance of a reconcilation, and I doubt I would want to be a booty call either. One of them yes - in fact we have lunch planned for tomorrow. One not so much and one I never, ever want to hear from her again.
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