fultanic Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 To make a long story short, I've known this girl since last summer. We've always been attracted to each other physically but she had a long-term boyfriend who she was having problems with. We started to become somewhat close at the beginning of December, and a friend of hers told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend and now she liked me, but was still sad about ending her relationship. So I decide to play it cool and continue to develop the kind of flirty friendship that we had developed. But over January we saw each other a lot, and started to become even more close. So at the beginning of February, we both came clean that we liked each other a lot. She said she had several guys interested in her so I said I would back off if she wanted me to, then she said she didn't want any of them and didn't really want to get back together with her boyfriend either, but was still coping with the breakup. Again, I said that I would back off and give her space to recover. She said she didn't want me to and that she wants me in her life. Over the next week or so we were talking on the phone a couple hours every other night. At this point I feel it's pretty evident that we are really into each other, and that we are a lot alike and click together very well. I send her flowers on V-Day to let her know I'm thinking of her, she really loves them and tell my friends that she works with how sweet it was and how happy it made her. I talk to her the night after and she says she has been really stressed out still from the breakup, and also she was trying to buy a house but her roommate backed out. And that's when the car hit the proverbial brick wall. After that I only got a few text messages from her, and I hear that she actually got the house and has to find a roommate. So here's my pickle; we've only talked a few times since then. Once she sent me a message saying "We're still friendly I am just busy right now" and I'm wondering, has she had a change of heart after she displayed that she did liked me? Or can she just not handle dealing with a new interest right now with the stress of moving and the breakup? I'm confused as hell right now and I've tried to get her out of my head and I can't. I felt like everything was going very well and that is why I am so confused. If something is wrong I can usually tell and right now I have no idea. I like this girl so much and I think she fits me very well, and that is rare for me, so I'm open to do anything to make it work. Link to post Share on other sites
NEONINK Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 You could just have coffee or lunch sometime to "catch up". Don't think of this as a potential relationship, think of it as a potential friendship, then when she's ready for a relationship, what better option than a good friend. If possible, I know it's easier said than done. Link to post Share on other sites
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