headstillspinning Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 (edited) In short, my ex and I were together for only 6 months and had our bumps in the road, but were very crazy about each other. Recently, we had a very bad break up after a huge drunken fight that resulted in him calling me a name and me slapping him in the face. The worst part is it came just days before my son (from a previous relationship) and I were scheduled to move in with him. We still moved our stuff in because we had nowhere else to go even though my ex was very unsure if that's even what he wanted. I cried and pleaded with him (sooo pathetic, I know) to give it some time and he agreed (probably out of pity) but said he needed space....5 days later he said he felt like he couldn't breathe with me sometimes (I wasn't doing a good job giving him space) and that it wasn't going to work because he couldn't move past the violent episode and I should make arrangements to move my stuff out. I left immediately and went to my parent's house. I told him I'd move my stuff out while he was away on vacation this month and that there was no need to communicate any further at that time. 9 days later I contacted him before he left on vacation to let him know I'd be moving my stuff out that Saturday (tomorrow). We ended up talking for 35 mins. He said he didn't realize how angry he actually was and that it wasn't easy for him to walk away but he was fueled by anger. He got really emotional when he said "I'm glad to hear you're good". I started to cry too. He told me he misses me and loves me and wishes there were do-overs in life because he would sure like one with me. He also said he had been trying to distract himself with other things and that hearing from me will probably **** him up for the rest of the week. I love him dearly and really wanted this realtionship to work. We talked about being friends for my son as he really adores my ex, but I am feeling hesistant now as I don't want to hurt my son or myself anymore. I can't lie...I really do want him back. I am still moving my stuff out tomorrow and am willing to be patient and go really slow to make this relationship work. He said he'd call me when he's back to discuss getting together (for my son). Does it sound like there is any chance of reconcilliation or do you think he's just going through the normal break up feelings of being lonely and missing me, etc.? Any thoughts are appreciated! Thanks. Edited November 19, 2010 by headstillspinning
Author headstillspinning Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 No advice? He comes home today,and I'm not sure what to do when I hear from him.
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