zoro Posted March 9, 2004 Posted March 9, 2004 I've been broken up with my ex for 3 months now and it still hurts to this day. It was one of those "she needs space break ups" ( that's beside the point). I was devastaed. Right after we broke up I would call her telling her to come back I Miss her "blah, blah, blah. She didn't go for it. Now I talk to her every now and then. "how are you" type of calls nothing deep. I've finally called her after 2 weeks of no contact. She was shocked telling me, that I say I miss her but that I don't even "try". I admit I haven't because I think I'd push her away. But what does it mean to TRY? I don't want to over do it and call everyday, bugging her telling her to come back or whatever. That can be a turn off. If I ask her out and she says no, does trying mean call the next day and ask again? How does someone TRY? What does it mean? I don't want to be a pest or seem desperate.
NEONINK Posted March 9, 2004 Posted March 9, 2004 Ask her out once. If you don't ask, how will you ever know? If she says no, tell her the ball is in her court now. Girls have to do some of the work too. Tell her this girl said so!
gaia Posted March 9, 2004 Posted March 9, 2004 Sounds like she's enjoying the power! I agree with NEONINK's advice. But don't hang around waiting for her forever.
Author zoro Posted March 9, 2004 Author Posted March 9, 2004 I agree, But if the ball is on her court I'm sort of back to square one. That's were trying comes to place. Is asking her out the only way of "trying" Are there extremes that I need to go through. If nothing ever happens I want to say. At least I tried but What is Considered Trying?
gaia Posted March 9, 2004 Posted March 9, 2004 Tell her that you'd like to try getting back together. If she turns you down, then clearly all this talk of "trying" is just her enjoying watching you beg. I wouldn't want to resume a relationship on that basis, personally. The problem with these "just taking a break" break-ups is that there is often no end point. If I were you, I'd quit playing her games and move on.
lost_in_chgo Posted March 10, 2004 Posted March 10, 2004 Hmmm, Tell her that you'd like to take her to dinner. If she agrees to that, show up with flowers and a smile. Take her out for a nice dinner and let her talk (don't try to make her talk) but find out what's up with her. Be cool about it, show interest, but don't ask her to come back. Basically just let her know that you are interested, without pushing too hard. And make sure that she knows that you've been honoring her request for space and that's why you haven't been after her. Sounds like she is definitely reconsidering things and wants a strong showing that you really want her. Sometimes you have to fight for them to show you really mean it. But be strong with her, you aren't her puppet. - or - Play hard to get, tell her about your new girlfriend (go get one if you need to) and let her know that the breakup isn't what you wanted. Make her fight for it.
Author zoro Posted March 10, 2004 Author Posted March 10, 2004 Thanks "lost" Sounds like a good idea!!!!
ldybg51 Posted March 10, 2004 Posted March 10, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=green][/color] Hey did you read my mind Lost. Thats exactly what I was thinking. Wait, no Its me with the Mind Powers. I must have read yours.
lost_in_chgo Posted March 10, 2004 Posted March 10, 2004 Release me from your wicked mental hold!!!! Oh, wait that wasn't you, it was my ex..... or was it?
ldybg51 Posted March 10, 2004 Posted March 10, 2004 [font=century gothic][/font][color=olive][/color]
ldybg51 Posted March 10, 2004 Posted March 10, 2004 [font=century gothic][/font][color=olive][/color] AHHHHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!! Ill never tee-eeeeell. (that was a creepy sinsong voice)
Qgal Posted March 10, 2004 Posted March 10, 2004 Trying means hanging in there, not giving up too soon. Not trying means that you walk away too soon because you think there is no hope for the two of you. At least that what the "experts" say. ?
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