jwallace1986 Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Any words of advice would be appreciated. Broke up with my ex round 2months ago, we were together for 6 months. We split because she still had feelings for her ex, we agreed it wasnt fair on me and she needed time to get over him. Went no contact since, and felt it was working even though i missed her horribly, and she was texting me constantly saying she misses me etc which was to be expected. However she told me recently shed seen her ex few times since wed split, and that she had lost feelings for him and now felt she was over him. Naturally i couldnt help responding to this, and we started seeing each other again (not officially) just to see how things went and she said she wanted to get back together. Yesterday however i found out from a friend shes seen him few times again and slept with him. Im feeling pretty awful, even now though i want her back but its clear she lied about being over him. Surely i should give up now and go back into no contact? even considering changing my number just not sure if its bit drastic? it will be hard knowing i wont speak to her again but maybe its good option in long run to move on?
alwayshoping Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I would give up. Once trust is broken it's so hard to get it back. Perhaps speak to her first as you may not know the real truth. Either way speak to her and take it from there. Good luck x
Kic Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Slept with him after or before you two began trying again?
Yaz Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Leave her, and go NC. You're the rebound, sorry You'll find someone worth your time. It doesn't matter if she's just pining for her ex, or sleeping with him - she's still hung up. On him. If she truly wants you, she'll respect NC, work her feelings out and only then can you give it another chance.
Author jwallace1986 Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 Cheers guys. She slept with him after we started trying again. From what i can tell they just argue and he upsets her all the time (he even text her wishing she was dead) then says sorry etc they make up and the cycle goes on. Shes hurt me this time though because i was doing pretty well with no contact (not ignoring her but just being short and reminding her why we brokeup) but she knew id respond and see her if she said she was completely over him which was clearly not true. oh well back to no contact....
Kic Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 I agree that trying to get over her and meeting other people seems like the way to go.
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