headfirst Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 Ok, so my boyfriend was walking home from work late so i told him to "message me when you get home please" when I saw him earlier in the day. I told him this twice just so i know he got home safe. Anyway, he didn't message me and I know he got home okay as he has been on facebook. Why would he have done this?? This is the 2nd time in as many months where he has ignored my request to text me to let me know he arrived safely? Am i being needy? What does this all mean? Link to post Share on other sites
tb24 Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 Having been on both sides of this (me and my ex used to live a short train ride apart so always texted each other when we got back), sometimes it's easy to forget. We both forgot a couple of times. Usually she'd text me "Are you home ok, i'm a bit worried" or similar and I'd text/call her back apologising or visa versa. However, you sound like you think he's doing it intentionally. Is this the case? I'd at least give him the benefit of the doubt. Link to post Share on other sites
collegeguy_24 Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 Give him the benefit of the doubt, me and my ex were the same. Since I live 20-30 minutes away by car, she asked that I always text her when I got home safety, and to call her if it was bad weather outside. I did forget a few times because my parents needed some help with things, and it is easy to forget. I say just tell him that sometimes you worry and would like some re-assurance. If you say it the right way, he will agree with no problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 I often forget to send the "I'm okay" text. When I'm going home, I get distracted by all sorts of things during the trip home. I don't mean to forget, but it happens a lot. I used to do that with my mom and she was unforgiving and would yell at me so I tried not forget with her. But even then, I did sometimes. I suggest you send a "good night, i love you" text at the end of the night. It kills two birds with one stone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author headfirst Posted November 20, 2010 Author Share Posted November 20, 2010 Guys the issue he isnt if he forgot or not, he didnt, he chose not to send a message. He checks my facebook page every 10 minutes and we both work for the same company so it's not like he would have forgotten What I wanna know is why he didn't text, was I being too mothering? Link to post Share on other sites
Confusedalways Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 I don't understand- how can you possibly KNOW he didn't forget? Why don't you ask HIM why he "purposely" didn't text you? Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 It could be that he doesn't want to feel mothered, I can see a guy feeling like that. He might be thinking "all I am doing is walking home and she thinks I can't take care of myself". You never know what people are thinking until you ask them. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 Ok, so my boyfriend was walking home from work late so i told him to "message me when you get home please" when I saw him earlier in the day. Okay.. I told him this twice just so i know he got home safe. Anyway, he didn't message me and I know he got home okay as he has been on facebook. Why twice? Anyway, chances are he forgot or felt like you were treating him like a child. Why would he have done this?? This is the 2nd time in as many months where he has ignored my request to text me to let me know he arrived safely? Ask him. But, chances are, again he forgot. Does he live in a bad area? How far did he have to walk home? Was it 2am? Am i being needy? What does this all mean? Abit, yes. What does this all mean? Nothing, you're reading into this and making it a huge issue. What counts is how he is when he's with you, how he treats you. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 Guys the issue he isnt if he forgot or not, he didnt, he chose not to send a message. Okay, say it went down like that. He chose not to send you a message or text you. As much as that bugs you, maybe he just didn't feel like it. Link to post Share on other sites
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