U1987 Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I really don't know what to think at this point. This is the first time Internet Dating has actually pissed me off. I'm actually angry right now. Last night, I got what was only the 2nd first contact from a girl on my online dating profile ever since I started months ago. Her message read "hey sexy. my name's _______. i'm also in _____ txt me sometime! xxx-xxx-xxxx" she was cute in her profile so I was pretty stoked. I texted her just tonight. My message was "Guess who. Hint..." and I typed the name of the online dating site. She texts back, "I actually had a change of heart. I'm not really interested now. Sry." I was confused. I texted back "Huh? What happened?" She replied, "Please don't text me anymore" What. The. Hell. That is beyond absurd. How do you go from contacting a guy first, giving him your number and then going cold and telling him to not contact you after 1 night and 2 text messages? I was pissed. I DID text her back. I wrote back "Un-f***ing-believable. PS, it's spelled "Sorry," not "Sry." " I still am angry about this. I've never been angry about internet dating before. I did attempt to contact 20 girls and only 1 responded (and it didn't pan out into a first date) but since I was making the first move, I expected and understood it to be hit and miss. But she contacted me first, so what was the point except to waste my time and get my hopes up? Internet dating should not be hard. Why is it?
Surrealist Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Internet dating would have to be the hardest way for a guy at least - I cant speak for women. Was it a message sent personally to you? Some messages can be sent out spam style I understand? Even if it was sent to you personally, she might of had a few dozen offers and chose someone else she thought was more attractive. That is why internet dating for guys is harder, women get lots and lots of offers so much so they hardly have the time to respond to all individually.
Cracker Jack Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Meh. You should've just stopped texting her once she asked you to. You can't reason with certain people. Anyway, at least you didn't spend any long period of time talking to her, so you'll be good.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Weren't you slightly curious why she would automatically give out her number in the first email?
D-Lish Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Weren't you slightly curious why she would automatically give out her number in the first email? No doubt, huge red flag!
Fouts Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 You're 1 for 20? Dude, get off the internet, you'd have a much better success ratio just randomly asking girls out at the mall or something.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 You're 1 for 20? Dude, get off the internet, you'd have a much better success ratio just randomly asking girls out at the mall or something. You obviously have not read his other thread.
Fouts Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 You obviously have not read his other thread. If it's worse than 1-20 in real life, then he's just shooting for girls that don't find his type appealing.
Author U1987 Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 Weren't you slightly curious why she would automatically give out her number in the first email? Yes. I thought she'd be easy.
dispatch3d Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I'd bet probably 10 bucks someone is playing a nasty trick on her. As in that's probably not her online profile.
Cee Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I'd bet probably 10 bucks someone is playing a nasty trick on her. As in that's probably not her online profile. That's a good point. No woman (unless a bot or a pro) would message a phone number as first contact.
sanskrit Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Have experienced this, but never via text. There is a tiny subset of internet daters who enjoy dissing other members due to anger, and will set this up until their anger subsides.
D-Jam Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Internet dating sucks. Stop wasting your money. Unless you come off as above-average, you're wasting your time and money. Go build social capital and meet women in person. Guaranteed they'll be more receptive.
SignalFlare Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 That's a good point. No woman (unless a bot or a pro) would message a phone number as first contact. My first thought reading the original post was "this is clearly written by a bot".
SilentVoice Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 "hey sexy. my name's _______. i'm also in _____ txt me sometime! xxx-xxx-xxxx" Oh , so this how you get guys to reply to you on dating sites... lmfao. She sounds like a call girl. Can imagine if this was true -- how much guys does she send this message?
fishtaco Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Internet dating sucks for a guy. Try doing it in real life. It's a different set of skills, and having to be able to talk out of your ass in real time is more daunting, but it can be done with practice. It will be much more rewarding than internet dating. Also, this is just how it is. When you date women in real life, you'll get the same thing. Meet some chick, flirt, make out, get number, then after she goes home she changes her mind. It happens so often there's a slang for it - "Number Collectors". Every time that happens, it's a bullet dodged. Because believe it or not, some women DON'T behave that way, but they are certainly in the minority.
Author U1987 Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 Internet dating sucks. Stop wasting your money. It's a free site. And I only tried online dating because YOU GUYS told me to after I tried to meet girls in class.
USCGAviator Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Yeah stick with the free sites. Most women on those sites are all about money dude. Don't believe me? Post a pic of yourself in a luxury car and/or post and income above 75k. I had a friend do this and the floodgates opened. So much for wanting a "good hearted man" lol
Star Gazer Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 It's a free site. And I only tried online dating because YOU GUYS told me to after I tried to meet girls in class. OKCupid, by chance? Does your profile say you're interested in casual sex? Maybe she contacted you before she noticed that; and once she did she was turned off.
dispatch3d Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 It's a free site. And I only tried online dating because YOU GUYS told me to after I tried to meet girls in class. easy to blame other people, the site, or everything else isn't it? ;-)
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