Dorian85 Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 hey everyone. I would really appreciate and advice given here. here is the story. My g/f left for 2 months to the Caribbean in early November. She is there doing research for school. I am suppose to fly down there in early December to visit her. We booked the tickets months ago, we planned things we were going to do there, I got all the vaccinations/medicine needed to travel...the works.. anyways, to the problem: The first week she got there, we were in contact every day. Things were good. A lot of " I miss you, cant wait till you get here" type of conversations. But somewhere along the lines, he mood changed. She started becoming more hostile and rude to me for no reason. She even put words into my mouth claiming that i said that" the only reason guys were talking to her while she was there was because they ONLY wanted to have sex with her"... let me be clear...I NEVER uttered those words....she for some reason thought i was inferring that somehow??? anyways, she wouldn't talk to me for 2 days after that. And later on I find out, through another mutual friend of ours who my g/f has been talking to as well, that my g/f has been going on a few "dates" with a guy she met at a bar there. She has apparently spent two full days with him. He is her type of guy too. The gorgeous Spanish type. She is completely gushing over him. She even told our friend that if she was capable of having this kind of connection with this guy, then what the hell is the point of being with me??? So Im confused as to what to do. I plan on confronting her about all this. But other then that, this situation is stressing me out. I care very deeply for her. anyways, thanks for reading
lkjh Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I don't know how long you two have been together but if she is willing to do this you should be grateful to be rid of her before you two ended up married. You should confront her and if its true just be done with her
PegNosePete Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Ditch the b!tch. She has totally disrespected you and your relationship.
Atlantico Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Fly there earlier then expected, surprise her and confront her... yeah you were lucky to get to know she is a bitch, but you need some closure on this, so secretly show up....
Hhhh Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 What a bitch toss her out and don't let her down softly just make you look like a pussy Lolll. Relationships with gorgeous Spanish guys are fairytales loll
xpaperxcutx Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Fly there earlier then expected, surprise her and confront her... yeah you were lucky to get to know she is a bitch, but you need some closure on this, so secretly show up.... If the OP paid for the tickets he should ask for a refund and go completely NC. If she paid, he might as well fly down there, b!tch at her, dump her, and then get some Caribbean sun.
Author Dorian85 Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 Hey guys. Thanks for the advice on the situation. Ok so heres the deal. I ended up confronting her about all of this Thursday night. We wen't into a long drawn out conversation in which she explained that she "doesn't think I should come because she doesn't think I will like it here, and I really need to focus on my research...etc..."....keep in mind she DOESN'T know that I know shes been seeing other people while shes been there...so RIGHT OFF THE BAT...she lies to me as to why she doesn't want me to come there. Anyways Conversation continued and we wet back n forth for a while. Then she says " I think we both need to be single while I'm here. I don't want to feel guilty about talking to guys here or going to bars., because I know that while I'm in a relationship, ill feel guilty about doing those things" To which I totally saw through and called her on her bull****. I think it is possible to be in a TRUSTING relationship and know where the boundaries are. But in her case its different, because all she wants to do is **** around with other people while she is there......again, she doesn't know that I know what shes been up to while she's been down there. BUT! the best part of this convo was that she thinks we should"only take a break until she gets back....then maybe we will find out if we really do care for each other..blah, blah,blah...typical B.S just to justify her own situation. So shes pretty much saying "ill **** around as a single girl over herein the Caribbean, and you will be waiting for me at home...and in a months time we will re-connect because ill realize what I had and will miss it and want to come back to it. Anyways, I was so fumed at that point. I could see right through her bull**** story about "taking a break". Right then and there I realized what a selfish person I had been in a relationship with. So, we are pretty much done. Its over between us, and actually, I feel pretty good. I thought i was going to be a wreck and go into some super depressed drink my face off mode....but I haven't felt that temptation yet. It is still early, we only broke it off on Thursday, so I might get that feeling. But so far, I've been ok. I still have a problem tho, and i would REALLY APPRECIATE any advice you fine people have in regards to this next scenario. When she returns from her trip, she will probably give me a call/text/email soon thereafter. Not 100% sure on this, but if it does happen, what should I do. Im going to be VERY tempted to rip her a new one and call her out on all her heartless bull****....but I don't exactly know what that will accomplish. Yeah it might make me feel better, but i think complete indeference towards her when we meet up will send a clearer message that I've moved on from here selfish ass. thoughts??? thanks for reading!
Atlantico Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 You might ask her: So, how is David doing this days? David being the guy she was with in the Caribean. Or: Sorry hon, I will be in "Single Mode" for awhile...
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