EasyHeart Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I'd say that all relationship "rules" purport to achieve the same goal, for men and women: to attain the upper hand in the relationship. Someone else pointed out on another thread around here somewhere that whoever cares least tends to be the one in power. That is what dating "rules" are all about, is it not? Appearing to care least, or seeking to care least. Thus, it is about gaining the upper hand and thereby avoiding being hurt.I think this is right. And the problem is that relationships should NOT be power struggles to gain the upper hand. And that's why people (men AND women) who look for and follow 'rules' are going to end up failing at relationships -- they spend all their time trying to figure out what's in it for them, instead of trying to figure out what's in it for us.
Corporation Lizzie Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 I can only say, what a sad state of affairs when people are applying stringent rules to something as dynamic and amazing as human attraction. Shove the rules.
Star Gazer Posted November 23, 2010 Posted November 23, 2010 The person that said there are no rules is right on the money. People would be much happier if they stopped abiding by "rules". And if those "rules" happen to be in paperback, it's a bunch of BS. Is this sarcasm? You have more rules than anyone on LS!
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