redhound13 Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 (edited) so, my ex who left me for another guy, is partying drinking and having the time of her life with her new friends and bf...and after i have asked her MULTITUDES OF TIMES TO LEAVE ME ALONE showed up at my house looking for her stuff. i saw her 2 weeks ago, to exchange our stuff, so im not sure why. she came with one of her new friends, and just tried to act all big saying i need to replace the stuff i tossed, since i obviously wasnt going to wear lingerie of hers, and she didnt ask for that in our transfer. i gave her 40 bucks so she would go away. i had to leave, somewhere to be, but she pulled the "listen, something i need to say". something along the lines of we are too young to be in love, you always want everything to be perfect....right. comming from the girl who BEGGED me to come back to her once before, admitting she STILL was in love with me. and the perfect line? i just said we try to make things perfect, or as best as they can be. if thats not the point, why even try? anyway. she tried simple conversation, making a few jokes, saying i looked good in my new jeans... wtf. i tried to get in my truck once, but she stopped me, and asked what i was thinking, and said its nothing important, i need to go. but that wasnt enough. she stood infront of the door so i couldnt get in. finally rolling down, she stated she doesnt want this to happen again (haha, again? your the one who came by!) i just said i cant be an *******. She said she doesnt have a nice bone in her body. I SWIFTLY stated "you dont want to know what i think about you." i just got into my truck and left. havent heard a word since. why on EARTH would she do something like that? obviously leave me alone didnt work. it hasnt. ignoring her calls and texts doesnt, cuz she just shows up. she is hanging out with my friends, who have been mysteriously ignoring and ditching me. im not an idiot. but whats a guy to do? why did she pull a stunt like this? AND HOW DO I GET IT IN HER HEAD TO LEAVE ME ALONE. Edited November 19, 2010 by redhound13 adding.
Author redhound13 Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 id really just like some insight. ive tried NC, i havent been a jerk but ive made it apparent that i dont want to have anything to do with her unless she stops hanging out with the trashy people she is, and gets her life straight. (a girl who has only held a job for 2 months tops and BARELY graduated highschool...help from me her forced her to get her diploma by taking summer classes.) she just turned 19. im 22. i still care (obviously or i wouldnt be posting). but i just want my space and i cant have it! hell HER FRIENDS ARE ASKING ME TO HANGOUT. im just lost. she proved to me this is the life she wanted. so why drag me along? i drink, i party, but its not on a daily basis. i smoke a pack and a half a day ever since this all started. thats how i cope. She copes at the bottom of a bottle drinks everyday, tries to impress EVERYONE, and is inflluenced by stupid people. ugh.
bl22 Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 God she sounds immature I had an ex like this about 4 years ago, just wouldnt leave me alone. She probably just wanted to see if you're stil pining for her. It seems she has no respect whatsoever for you, turning up with a 'friend' unexpectadly, they probably laughed about the idea beforehand then was like yeah lets do it. Shows how much fun shes really having, she'll grow out of this phase of drinking eventually but by then trust me when i say you wont give a crap, you dont need bitches like this in your life. You know what also, I think deep deep down she does miss you and feels guilty, and wanted to see your face again, but wanted to look all big and tough for the new friend, shes been manipulated and she now looks up to the new friends and not you. She'll tire eventually, just keep doing what you're doing and you'll meet someone new. She sounds a mess
Author redhound13 Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 i honestly thought there was a good person in her somewhere, but that light is flailing on the wick. she has depression issues...and everything she is doing now she did once before, and we got back together. but it took her grandpa dying for her to get her life straight. apparently that wasnt enough.
fun2bewith Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I know what happened here... I had a similar story 6 years ago with my x...She pitched up at my place with a new friend and wanted to pick up a CD, one she never listened to it anyway. We got back together soon after that and I asked her why she just showed up, and why she need to bring a friend along? Below is her answer tailor made to your case: She brought the friend along to get an opinion about you...She needs to make sure she is making the right choice by leaving or reconciling…She flirts, because she wants to get a reaction from you (you response to this will be analyzed by her and the friend)and deep down she is still attracted to you… In my case my x asked the opinion of the new friend and the friend told her that I was bad news…Even after the advice she still came back to me…but then it only lasted 2 months…
Author redhound13 Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 yea. but she has a new bf. the one she left me for. and this is one of the new friends that helped her make her "mind."
murphomatic Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 id really just like some insight. ive tried NC, i havent been a jerk but ive made it apparent that i dont want to have anything to do with her unless she stops hanging out with the trashy people she is, and gets her life straight. (a girl who has only held a job for 2 months tops and BARELY graduated highschool...help from me her forced her to get her diploma by taking summer classes.) she just turned 19. im 22. i still care (obviously or i wouldnt be posting). but i just want my space and i cant have it! hell HER FRIENDS ARE ASKING ME TO HANGOUT. im just lost. she proved to me this is the life she wanted. so why drag me along? i drink, i party, but its not on a daily basis. i smoke a pack and a half a day ever since this all started. thats how i cope. She copes at the bottom of a bottle drinks everyday, tries to impress EVERYONE, and is inflluenced by stupid people. ugh. Continue with NC .. and the next time she shows up at your place, advise her that she is to leave immediately, or you'll have the police show up and charge her with criminal trespassing, then escort her ass off your property. She sounds like very bad news and very manipulative. Avoid her and her friends at all costs.
fun2bewith Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 yea. but she has a new bf. the one she left me for. and this is one of the new friends that helped her make her "mind." She is unsure what she wants and she realized that the grass ain't greener on the other side..
Author redhound13 Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 problem is i live with a cop so that honestly wouldnt stop her i wouldnt go as far as a restraining order unless things got really bad. fun2bewith i told her the same thing, saying i guess the grass was greener on the other side, she didnt respond to it. everyone's telling me she came it cuz she honestly just HAD to see me. for her mentality. she either regrets what she did... or is just wanting to cause drama, and making sure im still thinking about her. i dont want her to have that satisfaction.
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