dolce Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Hi everybody. I'm just going to throw out my story, try to keep it short (ha), and if you want to respond to my crazy dating dilemma I would LOVE to hear any advice. If you just want to write me off as crazy - that's totally fine too (and probably true). So about a month ago I met this great guy at a bar (I know I know but bear with me). We hit it off, he texted me that night to make sure I was okay (there was a little bit of drinking going on of course - the dating game seems to be easier with a couple Budlights in the system) and I heard from him right away the next morning too and we texted back and forth all day. For the next four or so mornings he would send me a text and we'd shoot a couple back and forth. He seemed interested - complimenting me, he asked me if he could take me out to eat the day after we met which I declined and told him I'd like to another time. Anyway, it seemed good. It started to gradually dwindle after that first week though. I wouldn't hear from him for like 5 or 6 days but then he'd text me. So he was the one initiating conversation. Now, I know I can't expect some full-blown relationship - we just met, and I'm not an idiot or expecting that. But it WAS weird how he seemed all about it and then it pretty much slowed down, if not stopped. Last weekend I was in his city (we live an hour away from each other) visiting a friend and we met up after we were both out with our friends and he spent the night at my friend's apartment with me. We stayed up for like 3 hours talking and a small hookup happened (no sex). This was Saturday night/Sunday morning. *I* thought it went well ... driving him home in the morning wasn't awkward and we talked and joked the whole way. So what's today? Thursday? I haven't heard from him once. Not a text - nothing. I'm really not one to sit and over-analyze - I don't want to waste my time. But at the same time I don't know if I'm expecting too much wanting to hear from him so soon (but it HAS been 4 days - that's a long time). I also feel that guys don't really play games and that if he was interested he would have contacted me. Also, a couple things happened that night that he might be embarrassed about and I'm not sure if he's just waiting to hear from me because of his embarrassment or what (but like I said, I really don't think guys think this much about things and especially considering he was initially the one to initiate all conversation with me it doesn't seem like he plays bs games). ANYWAY - SO sorry to ramble. If you want to know more please let me know (I obviously have no problems talking in length about it! Haha) THANKS GUYS!!!
urdestiny Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 It really could be a number of things. I say don't shoot the guy off right away. I'm a firm believer that men are much more complex then women. If your still interested and would like to see where things go trying giving him a text or call 1st. There's nothing wrong with being the one to make the first move but at this point i would keep it light and flirty! Hope things work out!
Mad Max Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 It really could be a number of things. I say don't shoot the guy off right away. I'm a firm believer that men are much more complex then women. If your still interested and would like to see where things go trying giving him a text or call 1st. There's nothing wrong with being the one to make the first move but at this point i would keep it light and flirty! Hope things work out! :lmao: EL...OH...EL
daphne Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 My take on it is that he's not that into you. I wouldn't initiate the conversations. When a guy's interested, he does let you know. Keep looking.
utterer of lies Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 I'm a firm believer that men are much more complex then women. No we're not.
welikeincrowds Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 It wasn't a few decades ago that philosophers and other great thinkers were remarking on how shallow or incapable the woman's mind is compared to the abstracting, deep, complicated greatness of men. If you people only knew the degree to which your opinions -- that you think are your own, derived from some impartial personal observation (so you say you're a realist, Mad Max?) -- have quite simply been given to you, by the time and culture in which you happened to be born. If you really want to be a realist, you'd recognize this. You would naturally recognize it if only you cracked open a book once in a while. It is true realism -- utilitarianism -- in fact, J S Mill, the source of my signature quote, wouldn't be a bad place to start.
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