LittleTiger Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 I have just one more question before closing this topic: This evening, the faith or whatever you may call it, brought us together again. This time, she was riding home on her bike and saw me on the road. I was the one saying hey and then she realized me and stopped, then said "hey" enthusiastically. I felt very confident talking to her and it was like I totally moved on because I could talk to her like I do with any of my friends. On the other hand, she looked a bit nervous, never looking at my face when she was talking and a little unsure of what she is gonna say. We walked like 3 minutes together and I was the one asking questions, making jokes and avoiding weird silence. As we were leaving, we kissed like friends do and then she said "It was nice to meet you.", meaning that it was nice to come across me on the way and I wanted to tease her a little about that and said "Oh, it was nice to meet you too, what was your name... Jenny?". She did not get my joke and tried to correct what she said anxiously but I could not hear what she said because I already said goodbye and was walking to my apartment. I was totally cool about seeing her again but I guess she was feeling a bit nervous seeing me after that phone call. What is the best way to act if I see her again, until things settle down? I do not want things to be weird and uncomfortable. Maybe joking with her was a bit unsensitive thing to do at this point. What do you think? I think it's great that you called her and I'm glad you were able to feel confident and relaxed when you met. My honest opinion is that it's a shame you had to tease her. What exactly did you hope to gain by that? You knew she was uncomfortable so presumably you had a fair idea that teasing her would probably make her feel worse. It sounds as though you knocked her confidence a little, which wasn't very kind. Personally, I think we should all treat other people the way we would like to be treated ourselves. Nothing good comes out of being unkind to others and she didn't do anything to deserve it. If it wasn't your intention to make her feel bad, then perhaps you need to be a little more careful who you tease in future. Given your very brief 'history' you don't really know her well enough for her to have understood your 'humour'. When you do see her again, just be yourself. Be friendly and relaxed whenever you see her and I'm sure she'll be friendly too.
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