Right, time to get strong!

[tobydog]

Many of you will know the story of my terrible sep/divorce. And how I have been so ill through it all.

I am back teaching and doing OK.

My stbx has quite literally abandoned us. He never calls his son and rarely takes him out, only seen him a few times in 9 weeks. He took him 2 weeks ago and was 1 and a half hours late returning him, I had a breakdown as this man could do anything. I have no idea where he took him or who with. I want him to see his son but I think it needs to be done now on a legal basis. He has never asked about his first weeks at school, given us £10 in 9 weeks and let him down repeatedly. I do not feel good about him ringing Sunday morning wanting to take him. I don't want this wishy washy stuff, more of a proper arrangement. Am I entitled to fob him off until it is all done legally. Matthew says now he is glad Daddy is not here......I have changed my tel number and he can only contact us through the mobile, which I won't answer. Am I right in doing this? Cheers x

[worlybear]

Hi. Don't know if you are in England or States but it is imperative that you get yourself a lawyer/solicitor.

If you are in England phone the CSA immediately as they will make certain that your ex supports his son- they can access his N.I. number and take money from source (his employers have to give details) if he refuses to pay.

Re access-this needs to be sorted legally unless your ex can be trusted to return your son at an agreed time.

Personally, I would put all visitation rights on hold until you've taken legal advice.

Don't correspond with your ex -by phone,email or whatever. If he states his intention of visiting this weekend- then make sure that you're out!

TAKE LEGAL ADVICE A.S.A.P.

Thinking of you. Hugs.:bunny:

[tobydog]

Thanks Wbear, I am in England, he is NOT having my son this weekend and he can go to his solicitors. I have emailed tham with the full story.

Any other advice going? Debbie x