U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Anyone in college or remember feeling this way in college I'm feeling it increasingly difficult to feel motivated about school or life in general the longer I'm forced to go on single/celibate. It just seems like a vicious cycle; the longer I go without, the less confident I am in myself; the less I can see myself as an attractive male. I tried meeting girls in my classes early on in the semester; none of those worked out. I tried online dating; none of those worked out (Oceangirl said she'd privately review my profile a few weeks ago but never got back to me) and I just feel depressed about it. It really is difficult to see you're own attractive qualities when girl after girl after girl blows you off. The thing is, I'm not even asking for a lot. I'm not asking for the perfect life with the perfect girl to marry and live happily ever after with; I've known some guys who are at my age and I think they're all nuts. All I want is sex. That's all; 3 hours on a Thursday or Friday night with a girl I find attractive. I really, really don't believe that's too much to ask for. So why is it so hard to get it?
Eclypse Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Because if you go straight out and tell them you just want sex most girls will reject you. You have to at least pretend you are interested in them.
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 (edited) Because if you go straight out and tell them you just want sex most girls will reject you. You have to at least pretend you are interested in them. Ofcourse I don't straight-out tell them that; that would just be foolish. And I really do my best to appear interested (I took some acting classes in high school) The problem is, I don't even get to that chance or even the first date. I'm having trouble getting past the initial first conversation or 2 in real life and even getting a reply in email in online dating. Edited November 18, 2010 by U1987
Yvelysse Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I liked being celibate at school. I lived in the dorms and the drama was piled REAL high. I'd actually 'date/sex' guys who were nOT in school. No fuss no muss. Altho this one guy nailed me in the shower while his live in GF was playing my Videogame. lol They had an open relationship. he's now married to a completely different chick and 3 kids. o.o I have known him for 6 years or so..... hahaha
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 I liked being celibate at school. I lived in the dorms and the drama was piled REAL high. I'd actually 'date/sex' guys who were nOT in school. No fuss no muss. Altho this one guy nailed me in the shower while his live in GF was playing my Videogame. lol They had an open relationship. he's now married to a completely different chick and 3 kids. o.o I have known him for 6 years or so..... hahaha Okay... .... so.... .... What do I have to do?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 But you're going around in hopes of getting sex... I'm surprised if you actually want to get know a girl better. There's no chance she'll even want to jump into bed with you unless she's really promiscuous to begin with.
Green Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Anyone in college or remember feeling this way in college I'm feeling it increasingly difficult to feel motivated about school or life in general the longer I'm forced to go on single/celibate. It just seems like a vicious cycle; the longer I go without, the less confident I am in myself; the less I can see myself as an attractive male. I tried meeting girls in my classes early on in the semester; none of those worked out. I tried online dating; none of those worked out (Oceangirl said she'd privately review my profile a few weeks ago but never got back to me) and I just feel depressed about it. It really is difficult to see you're own attractive qualities when girl after girl after girl blows you off. The thing is, I'm not even asking for a lot. I'm not asking for the perfect life with the perfect girl to marry and live happily ever after with; I've known some guys who are at my age and I think they're all nuts. All I want is sex. That's all; 3 hours on a Thursday or Friday night with a girl I find attractive. I really, really don't believe that's too much to ask for. So why is it so hard to get it? Oceangirl can't help you haha. Unless she helped you with her body. Boy I bet you'd like that eh. PM me if you want some real advice on women. Doubt you'd have the balls to quickly do what I tell you though. Because if you go straight out and tell them you just want sex most girls will reject you. You have to at least pretend you are interested in them. I doubt he even does that. He's already given up on not only real life attempts but online... plus he seemed to have all his focus online so that was most of his problem. Ofcourse I don't straight-out tell them that; that would just be foolish. And I really do my best to appear interested (I took some acting classes in high school) The problem is, I don't even get to that chance or even the first date. I'm having trouble getting past the initial first conversation or 2 in real life and even getting a reply in email in online dating. Do you ASK girls out every week... NO? Why not? Scared. .. probably right... ASK GIRLS OUT IN PERSON LOTSSSSSSSS! But you're going around in hopes of getting sex... I'm surprised if you actually want to get know a girl better. There's no chance she'll even want to jump into bed with you unless she's really promiscuous to begin with. haha I wish that were true. He seemes kina "simple" when it comes to social activities like "fun with women" so I think that is his real problem
sanskrit Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I wish I had not had sex in college. Looking back, there was lots I missed due to trying to get more sex once I had some. Just wanted to give a different perspective. Despite what the world pumps into your eyes and ears every moment of every day, there is more to life than sex.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Maybe you need to borrow the "do girls want relationships or just sex buddies" poster's phone book.
Green Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Maybe you need to borrow the "do girls want relationships or just sex buddies" poster's phone book. No he just needs to TRY........ all these guys who cry about no women.... They don't even ask one woman a week out....... heck they should be asking every girl they are attracted to out which could be like over 10 a week if they just did as little as go to the library and supermarket...... THEY DONT TRY... it would be like if I wasn't applying for jobs yet complained I had none... sure some one might find my profile on linkedin(but this would be a form of trying) or a friend who knows I'm unemployed might help out and just give me one with out apply(but that would involve networking which is trying) u get the point he don't TRYYYYYYYYY
Arasae Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 All I want is sex. That's all; 3 hours on a Thursday or Friday night with a girl I find attractive. I really, really don't believe that's too much to ask for. So why is it so hard to get it? Probably because that's all you want. Even my previous F-Buddy and I had at least a friendship going on; every other guy who's tried solely to get into my pants has been obvious, desperate, and obnoxious. We're better at picking out your motivations than you might think. If all you want is sex, you better be damned good looking or learn how to play the field.
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 But you're going around in hopes of getting sex... I'm surprised if you actually want to get know a girl better. There's no chance she'll even want to jump into bed with you unless she's really promiscuous to begin with. I can pretend to want to get to know a girl better, but deep down inside, I'm really not interested. It's just how I feel. I can't help it. It's gotten to the point that with the past few girls I dated, when we went out and she was telling me about her hobbies and interests and experiences, all I could think about was wondering what she looked like naked and how soon I would find out.
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Oceangirl can't help you haha. Unless she helped you with her body. Boy I bet you'd like that eh. PM me if you want some real advice on women. Doubt you'd have the balls to quickly do what I tell you though. She offered to review my online dating profile, but when I IM'ed her my profile, she never got back to me. I doubt he even does that. He's already given up on not only real life attempts but online... plus he seemed to have all his focus online so that was most of his problem. Do you ASK girls out every week... NO? Why not? Scared. .. probably right... ASK GIRLS OUT IN PERSON LOTSSSSSSSS! Of course I'm scared. I don't want to blow my chances until I know what works and what's good. I've blown my chances with a lot of girls in my classes already this semester. I can't afford to waste anymore until I'm sure I can get them. haha I wish that were true. He seemes kina "simple" when it comes to social activities like "fun with women" so I think that is his real problem I'm not really sure I understand what you mean.
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 I wish I had not had sex in college. That's fine, but I do Looking back, there was lots I missed due to trying to get more sex once I had some. Just wanted to give a different perspective. Despite what the world pumps into your eyes and ears every moment of every day, there is more to life than sex. Not for me at this point in my life. That's really all I want.
runner Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 i would suggest the online thing then...no, not 'match', et cetera. i mean those other sites: adult friend finder, ashley madison, et cetera. otherwise it'll be too hit & miss for you on campus.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I can pretend to want to get to know a girl better, but deep down inside, I'm really not interested. It's just how I feel. I can't help it. It's gotten to the point that with the past few girls I dated, when we went out and she was telling me about her hobbies and interests and experiences, all I could think about was wondering what she looked like naked and how soon I would find out. Why don't you just hire a hooker? I honestly have never met a guy like you and I feel sorry for the girls who have. As cliche as this sounds, the ones that actually wait to have sex are actually looking for a relationship. IF you're down for casual sex, please try the local bar. The really drunk ones certainly wouldn't care if you're attractive or not.
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Why don't you just hire a hooker? Because hiring a prostitute lands you on the Sex Offender Registry, which might as well be a death sentence. Besides, even in places where prostitution is legal, do you know how much they cost? Hundreds of dollars a night. I shouldn't have to pay for sex. Sex isn't a commodity to be a sold or a gift to be given to a man. It's something that should be shared and enjoyed equally for it's own sake. I really don't understand why so many girls don't get this. I honestly have never met a guy like you Yes you have. You know LOTS of guys like me, but they just keep it inside. Most guys are afraid of saying it out loud because they're afraid of stigma.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Because hiring a prostitute lands you on the Sex Offender Registry, which might as well be a death sentence. Besides, even in places where prostitution is legal, do you know how much they cost? Hundreds of dollars a night. I shouldn't have to pay for sex. Sex isn't a commodity to be a sold or a gift to be given to a man. It's something that should be shared and enjoyed equally for it's own sake. I really don't understand why so many girls don't get this. Yes you have. You know LOTS of guys like me, but they just keep it inside. Most guys are afraid of saying it out loud because they're afraid of stigma. No, wait you're right, I have met some. But guess what, I don't bother with them. So they're really not my problem.
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 i would suggest the online thing then...no, not 'match', et cetera. i mean those other sites: adult friend finder, ashley madison, et cetera. otherwise it'll be too hit & miss for you on campus. Other people have suggested Adult Friend Finder on here, and I and a few other guys can attest that it's almost hopeless to score a hook up on AFF. The ratio of men to women is like 3 to 1, and the when you factor in that there's an even smaller number of attractive women, it's like 10 to 1. Plus, there's a "Review System" on that site. Women seem to only go after the guys with good reviews from other women and it snow balls; women on that site only go after guys who've had sex with lots of other women on that site, which begs the question, how to get that first review? How do you get that first review? All in all, I wasted about $60 on AFF. And I've heard that Ashley Madison is a scam.
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 No, wait you're right, I have met some. But guess what, I don't bother with them. So they're really not my problem. Why did you think prostitution was a viable option? What were you thinking as you were typing that?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Why did you think prostitution was a viable option? What were you thinking as you were typing that? Prostitutes are the only people I know who can do what you want- give you sex 2-3 times a week without any hassle- provided that you have the ability to meet their prices. Those are the only people who won't turn you down, and you don't have to date them either. I see it as a win-win for you.
welikeincrowds Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 What are you studying? I barely had time to oggle women on the street, much less date, at least near the end of my school career. I'm concerned that your self-esteem is not strengthened by the inspiration that arises from what you're learning.
tman666 Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 You need to go to dive bars and likely lower your standards. The women that are going to be available to you with your attitude are most likely going to be the sluttiest of the slutty and cougars who are looking for the same thing. If you think that you can get away with getting into some nice, quality girl's panties without any emotional attachment, then you've either gotten the whole "player" thing down to a science (which you obviously do not), or you're kidding yourself about what your options are and what you truly deserve. Do you think it makes you some sort of big shot or tough guy to only want sex? Do you think that emotional attachments are for eunuchs? I don't know you personally, but if I did, we'd have a stern talkin', son. Guys with attitudes like you make me see red.
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Prostitutes are the only people I know who can do what you want- give you sex 2-3 times a week without any hassle- provided that you have the ability to meet their prices. Those are the only people who won't turn you down, and you don't have to date them either. I see it as a win-win for you. SEX OFFENDER REGISTRY! Don't you get that? Once you're in, you're blacklisted for life!
Author U1987 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 (edited) Do you think it makes you some sort of big shot or tough guy to only want sex? Do you think that emotional attachments are for eunuchs? Like I said, I honestly just don't feel much interest in "connecting emotionally" or "really getting to know" girls on a deep level (except for hipster and punk girls, but a lot of you here ragged on me when I asked about that) As for regular girls, I just can't make myself feel interest anymore. I've had a few serious girlfriends, and I've had 2 one night stands and 2 friends with benefits. The one night stands and friends with benefits were so much more fun, exciting and satisfying that the serious girlfriends. It's so great to go all the way with a girl right off the bat without all the time and work and struggle of building a relationship and risking your emotions. I honestly believe it's the greatest thing in the world. Do you understand what I mean? Edited November 18, 2010 by U1987
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