Alobar Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Me and my girlfriend of 5 years just split up several weeks ago. We are still living together because of our lease, which has made it unbearably difficult for me. She seems like she emotionally detached herself from me a while ago, because shes fine. She's had this love interest who was a constant thorn in my side and the object of much jealousy and anger during our relationship. She's already pursuing this guy while not actually going out with him (to preserve my feelings presumably. He lives like 5 hours away). I've been feeling horrible and sick to my stomach almost constantly these past few weeks, so I asked her today if anything was going on between them. She said that out of respect for me she wasn't going to date him yet but that they flirt all the time. It was a pretty stupid thing for me to do because I've felt like vomiting all night since I heard. I can even hear her giggling and flirting from the other room. I don't know what to do. Im so upset about everything but i can't seem to tell her the right way. It always comes off as anger or hope that we'll reconcile (I doubt we will, but it always comes out this way when I try to articulate my feelings). This just drives her away and probably annoys her. I feel like I'm going crazy in here. Like, does nobody else think it's wildly upsetting to have the girl they were hoping to marry blatantly flirting with someone? The thought of her and him together makes me want to pass out. Does anybody have some advice here? I'm so miserable constantly. I wish she would just stop. Not just stop to my face, but just stop alltogether. I moved to this state to be with her and now ive been cast aside. I'm so stuck right now.
PegNosePete Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 You can't change her, you can only change yourself. Find someone to take over your half of the lease and move.
Ajax Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Get out of there. Stay with a friend till you can get out of your lease.
Author Alobar Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Assume that I can't move out yet. Im not going to be able to until at least after Christmas. Is there any way to make this situation better?
PegNosePete Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Earplugs? MP3 player? You can't control her actions. You can only control your own. Be thankful she's not bringing guys home and banging them...
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