Lone Wolf Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Hi there! So... I've started to go to night clubs, and now I'm facing a BIG problem. I have absolutely no Idea how to approach to a girl there. I mean, the music is loud so I can't actually talk to one, besides they're usually dancing in groups with other girls so it kinda complicates things a little bit. Anyway... I'd like some advices on how to face this. Thanks!
xpaperxcutx Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Hi there! So... I've started to go to night clubs, and now I'm facing a BIG problem. I have absolutely no Idea how to approach to a girl there. I mean, the music is loud so I can't actually talk to one, besides they're usually dancing in groups with other girls so it kinda complicates things a little bit. Anyway... I'd like some advices on how to face this. Thanks! You don't talk to a girl at the club, you ask them to dance. Only afterwards do you ask them for their number.
Author Lone Wolf Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 I know but when I say "approach" I mean literally. How Do I approach her?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I know but when I say "approach" I mean literally. How Do I approach her? I think PUA literally made " approach" into a phenomenon. I normally think a guy just walks up to a girl and just asks her. If you have to overthink anything, you're better off doing nothing.
Author Lone Wolf Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 I get you. But it's not like she's standing there... here EVERYONE is dancing... place is crowded.. music is SUPER LOUD, so I can't even ask her, because even if she could hear me then it would be like "Hey! wanna dance?" and she's already dancing so it's kinda stupid, right? Plus most of the girls go in groups which complicates things... so yeah... Also I feel kinda overwhelmed. The good thing is almost everyone is drunk or at least tipsy.
sanskrit Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Stay away from the ones out on the floor with their GFs who never come off the dance floor. In all likelihood, they are involved, on girls' night out, and DON'T want to meet you. Don't go up and start randomly dancing with them unless you have model looks and are well-dressed. Walking into a strange club and expecting to meet women there is a bad idea. Pick a couple of clubs, keep going there over time, and get to know the staff, especially the bartenders. Tipping a bartender $20 is worth buying $1000 worth of drinks for strange women. The bartender is the center of power in a club, and if he/she is deferring to you, engaging you, and smiling at you, women at the bar will be much more open to your approach. Good bartenders, not dumb surly kids, especially the older female ones and older men who know what's what, will introduce you to women once they know you (it's gonna take more than one $20 and one night unfortunately ). They will also steer you from hookers and hoovers, which is even more valuable than introducing you to random women. Try not to choose clubs that are always packed, in fact lounge type places are so much better than dance clubs for first meeting. I've sat down on a lounge couch so many times and talked to a group of strange women, yet noise and attitude preclude this in a dance club. Meet them at a lounge, and take them to the dance club. Walking into a dance club with a dance partner or two already on your arm is the way to go. Other women will look right past better looking, more turned out men at you if you are with attractive women. The best of both worlds are places that have a lounge and a separate dancefloor. Have posted this before on LS and it bears repeating. I was out with good looking female friends, got to the next club first before they did. Asked 3 women at the bar to dance right when I walked in (not within eye or earshot of each other, don't do that). All said no. My good looking GFs got there, dragged me onto the floor. One of the women I had asked to dance came right out on the floor, started dancing, and started trying to get my attention away from my friends. The two others were eye-f-ing me from the bar. I thought "mmhmm, I see how it is ladies" Hope this helps.
Author Lone Wolf Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Thx 4 the advice guys! I'll try to apply this, but things work a bit different around here. This is more like everyone's dancing, maybe 1 or 2 girls together or groups, you get closer and try to dance with one of the girls. Two things might happen, you either get rejected or you succeed and start dancing, then maybe go for a drink or some small talk... many times I've seen guys get to first base right there... You need to keep in mind that I'm young (19) and I go to places where the crowd is around my age too... so... yeah that's how it works around here. Then the lounge sounds like an awesome Idea, but It's more targeted to older guys, say 25, 30... And the other one sounds pretty cool... but then the music difficults the chat.
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