is this girl being friendly or should stay away from her

[dgia1810]

the girl tells me everything about what’s going on with her, most the days she waits for me after class usually out side the door fixing her hair till I come out or she walks and catch up to me if i leave the class first. and the days she gets picked up she go a different way and even if i ignored her she'll say bye and wait till i come out .. and i'm in the service and she's worried about my deployment, but long story i switched branches and the first thing she asked was is it any safer.

 

And she’s always trying to compare the stuff we have in common like she called me a dork the other day, what happen was while back we were walking together to our cars and she was talking to me about how she like Broadway plays, and i kinda laughed (not Haha) and she said i know all my friends call me a dork for that. We had a project in class and she bought these knitting needles, beads and weird stuff, everyone in the group thought it was funny and she said "he's calling me a dork and he made a software earlier" (i just made a quick VB program that did the same thing we had to construct) and i never called her a dork

 

if she was single I would have definitely asked her out but she's married and has a kid, and i dont think her marriage is bad coz her husband pays for most her stuff, she stays home coz of the kind. Btw she's 23 i'm 21

 

just want to know is she being friendly or should i keep my distance

[USMCHokie]

I think I remember reading about this situation of yours before...stay away...far far away...

[Cracker Jack]

Me thinks she likes you.

 

And yeah, try to stay away from her as much as possible.

[dgia1810]

just wondering coz she's real nice to me, and she is a real nice person dont mind being friends with her. she also talk about how she wants another kid and her and her husbands plans to add another room ect... but thats friendly talk, and sometimes she tells me stuff that you'll only tell some one you trust.

[Cracker Jack]

Could you give an example of what she tells you?

 

Perhaps she is friendly. I still think she likes you, but you never know.

[dgia1810]

well she tells me what she cook for dinner ect.., about her 3yo son (which i already met) tells me stuff she did in high school (not sex but other stuff you really dont go around telling to ppl, and about how she used to sneak her husband in to her house back when they were dating coz i told her my mom wont allow girls in the house), and its a music class an she aid she plays this instrument the teacher asked us to bring an instrument if we have one i had one so i brought ti to school, this other guy asked her to play it but she denied and told me she doesn't even play it in front of her husband and after class i asked her if she can play the one song she knows (i thought she wouldn't ) but she did

 

idk weather girls feel comfortable around me but i cant figure her out, and she is a really nice person

[EasyHeart]

You're her little brother.

[dgia1810]

so what does that me she thinks of me as family i just met her 2mo's ago

[CLS63AMG]

Some girls just get along better with men then women. You're deep in the friend zone...not a bad thing, sounds like she just wants a friend and someone to talk to.

 

Just be her friend.

[dgia1810]

ok so couple say she's trouble couple say she's being friendly, how can i know what she really want w/o asking her.to be honest i only had one girl friend and was with her for 4 yrs and she broke up with me couple mouthes ago

[CLS63AMG]

ok so couple say she's trouble couple say she's being friendly, how can i know what she really want w/o asking her.to be honest i only had one girl friend and was with her for 4 yrs and she broke up with me couple mouthes ago

 

Did you tell that to her? If so it explains why she's being nice

[dgia1810]

tell what?

[CLS63AMG]

tell what?

 

4 year relationship just ended

[dgia1810]

yes she knows, it happen around the begining of the semester, she left me a voice mail and it was like the 3rd day of that class i was of course upset a bit she asked ,e whats wrong and i told her what happen. all she said was "what a b!tc#"

[Cracker Jack]

Well, it sounds like she does care about you.

 

The question is, are you okay with just being friends with her like this? If so, then everything should be fine.

[dgia1810]

i'm ok with being friends with her but it feels weird at the same time i mean if i put my self in her husbands shoes i wouldn't like if my wife is waiting after class to walk with another guy, when i was with my girl friend i didnt even talk much with other girls. and at the same time i kinda have a crush on her so she's in my head most the time,its ok to have a crush as long as i dont act upon it ?

[Cracker Jack]

That's easier said than done, tho. If you have a crush, it could continue to grow if left unchecked. Her constantly being on your mind is a start to that. I dunno. The more I read this, the more it sounds like you probably should limit your time around her.

 

Were you ever physical with her in any way? If you acted on it, do you think she would go along with it? If the answer is yes to the last question, then yeah, you should probably no hang around with her.

[dgia1810]

nevr got physical and will she go along with it if i do to that i dont know the answer, like i said she does talk about her husband once a while, like one day i told her its almost time to snowboard and she said her husband likes to snow board a lot, and asked what els i like and well he likes every thing i like, and she talked abuot her and her husbands future plans, and her's. so if she's willing to cheat on him i doubt she will be talking about him in a positive way

[Cracker Jack]

Well, if she shows she's into her husband as much as you say, then I don't think she's an issue here. It's just a matter of you being able to contain your crush. That's the main key here.