I don't want to ruin a good friendship

[Mark721]

I have a great friendship with a girl who we will call Sally. We have been friends for about a year and a half, and we used to work together. I have recently started to like her romantically, but she has had a boyfriend we will call Greg. Sally and Greg have been together for two years. Greg is really just an acquaintance, I have never hung out with him without Sally present. So this weekend Sally "went on a break" with Greg, but none of us really know what that means. Her best friend (a good friend of mine as well) doesn't know the specifics, but it was Sally's idea. Now I am not sure how to go about this situation. I don't want to mess up our friendship or make it awkward, but I also don't want to let an opportunity pass me by if she feels the same way about me. We have a lot of mutual friends but I haven't told anyone about my predicament yet. Any advice would be appreciated

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[Yvelysse]

Simply ASK

 

Women are communicators, We like to let people know what we are thinking.

If she says she has 'issues' with Greg, Sympathize.... offer your male advice to her.

 

Don't tell her yet because she might get blindsided with your affection. Chances are she already suspects. If she makes the hint she is having 'problems' with Greg, then let her know your there for her if she EVER needs you.

 

Use of verbiage is important.

Generally as a rule of thumb, women like to handle any things ourselves.

Issues = we can do it ... Problems = we might need help ... Troubles = We want assistance.

 

We like advice and we will communicate when we are being overwhelmed. For this the mutual friend is your GREATEST asset. Ask her which words Sally is using and determine if she follows the simplistic rule. Sally also will tell her friend when she needs assistance and this is when you may become valuable to Sally as a troubleshooter.

 

Good Luck.

[miracle252]

Your case is a good example for another topic which is discussed in this forum “Male/Female friendships leading to attraction”

 

I don't want to mess up our friendship or make it awkward, but I also don't want to let an opportunity pass me by.

You really need to decide what you want. Sometimes people advice to take a piece of paper and to divide it in two columns and to write in one column “What I’ll get” and “what I’ll lose”, after filling two columns I hope you will understand what you really need. The most important rule is to fill these columns sincerely without increasing or decreasing the real problem.