yorkshire_lad Posted March 9, 2004 Posted March 9, 2004 hiya ppl, i might just be going to show myself up here by being really stupid but here goes, i have a fiancee who i love to bits and think the world of,but as a example of whats happend sun at around 5 she was in pub and i was at work and i sent her a txt saying i would like to spend abit more time alone with u how would u like to pop to the pub with me 2nite just the 2 of us,l8r i got a txt saying yes that would be good when u get here my m8 will go anyhow i got there her m8(S) didnt go,l8r that night i had somthing to tell her cos it was upsetting me bout my family so i asked if i could have a word for 5 minutes with her she kinda pulled a face and walked off to catch her m8s up i must have asked 8times,then l8r on her m8 had a problem and was in tears she went straight up to her to sort her problem out and im stood there thinking well why didnt you come to me? we then took her m8 home n left we argued abit so decided to go stop at my dads the night so we didnt wake her mum n dad up,morning after i said we need to talk so i met her on her work break and asked y she kinda blanked me and she turned round and said i hardly get to go out with my m8s so wanted to stop with them,i know they was meant to go when u got here but they all decided to stop, were still with each other n things are fine now,but i know it will happen again its the 2nd time now am i just being taken for a mug? am i just being daft? or am i just a fool who needs to get over is jelousy problem?
carla Posted March 9, 2004 Posted March 9, 2004 I think that you have good reason to be upset. Your the person that she is to be with (hopefully) for the rest of your lives. Yes she should spend time with her m8s but she shouldn't ignore your feelings and needs as well. You should be her BEST friend. You should talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. Did you ever get a chance to talk to her about your family problems? Did you manage to get the problems worked out? Good Luck.
Fofinha Posted March 9, 2004 Posted March 9, 2004 Hmmm...Although she is your girl, it is still OK to spend time with her mates, but within reason. If you ask her for quality time together and she prefers to be with all her mates intead, all the time, then you have an issue. Although it does not mean that she should give up everything and everyone once she is married, she still has to be able to give you her full attention when you are around. Talk to her about the way you feel. Perhaps she does not even realize the extent of pain she is inflicting on you. Good luck.
Hannah Posted March 10, 2004 Posted March 10, 2004 You have the right to be angry or upset. Though maybe it is hard for you girlfriend as she is now torn between you and her friends though you two are together maybe she is scared if she doesn't see her mates she will lose them though she has a lower chance of losing one as you are engaged and love each other i'm guessing
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