DISASTER! The crap hits the fan!

[mitchell]

This guy is a loser. He sees his 2 year old child "2-3 times a month". Get on with your life without him.

[Ms. Red]

I've never seen a doctor yet who schedules there own appointments. Any I ever seen use a receptionist. So this is strange indeed.

 

Just because you haven't seen it doesn't make it strange. I have a doctor friend in private practice and he does it all himself. He types his own letters and does all the billing etc. Also, when I saw a therapists, they booked their own appts. Right at the end of the session they would pull up a calendar on their computer and we would figure out the next appt.

 

Holidays? Spending thanksgiving with my buddy, Christmas with my parents and bro.

 

The last time I had a break up around the holidays, my dad kicked some sick sense into me over Christmas. When I got back for the new year, that toxic ex bf was history. My dad has a way of getting me up on my feet so I'm not worried bout the holidays!

 

Thanks for the advice on traveling! I'll do that if I decide to rent a car from SD. I just worry about getting robbed or raped or murdered (like tv) in those shady motels / inns!

 

 

LoL I know it's the movies that do it to us really though right? When I travelled through several states about 4 years ago, I didn't get a room every night. I'd sleep in my car at the truck stops. If I could do that, you could stay in a room alone.

[fooled once]

I don't know why you think, that I think it's a competition. I never thought it was. I keep asking him if he wants to work it out with his wife, just let me know. He always confirms that he wants to be with me, gives me all his freaking passwords, so I'm confused.

 

Second, he doesn't have phone conversations with his wife. But he sees the kid 2 times a month. The last 3 times he picked up the kid from her, he told me he reminded her I was living in the apartment and we were still going out. She supposedly made sarcastic comments after that, like, "I will do everything in my power and fight you in court so your girlfriend never sees my child!" Now I think they were lies and he never told her anything, but I will never be able to confirm.

 

Third, I DID leave. I packed up all my **** and moved out after waiting 4 hours in the apartment for him. A communication break down in a relationship is a dead end, married or not.

 

Fourth, I didn't expect a response from the counselor when I texted her from my cell today. I just wanted to her to know he was seeing me as I regurgitated the exact phrase I texted her on his cell phone the night before. She texted him back several times after that (I checked his cell phone records), so I know she got it and confronted him. Not sure if he lied to the counselor too, but I'm sure they can figure it out by themselves now.

 

Fifth, I texted her because I knew it will be over once I do that. He can be pissed / ashamed, whatever, I don't care. He can go fix up the mess with them; I don't want to deal with this whole mind screw anymore.

 

Sixth, it is a ticket on a japanese airline, so pretty much the only places he can go is Asia or India. Good luck with that.

 

Seventh, I bought myself a ticket to San Diego today. I'm there until I come back to pack my bags and leave for Asia for the holidays!!

 

WHY are you still checking HIS PERSONAL CELL RECORDS????? IF you are "done" like you claim, STOP SNOOPING!!! Stay out of his email, stay out of his facebook, stay out of his CELL RECORDS. OMG, I am just blown away by your behavior!

 

Have a safe trip to San Diego. Like so many others, as long as you are careful, there is no reason to be worried about traveling alone. Use common sense. MANY women do it every single day. Don't use this as an excuse to contact the MM.

 

And stay out of his stuff. Enough snooping. Be done. Let that be your Christmas gift to yourself - getting your self respect and dignity back. Learn from this experience and grow from it!