ginastar Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 a man that dated another girl for a 8 months after he dated you for 6, 7, or 8 years?
USMCHokie Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 A year ago, I would have said yes. But now, I would say no way in hell. Anyone who chooses someone else over me doesn't get a chance to choose me again... Unless it was like 50 years later and I was old, lonely, and decrepid, and it was like a last resort or something...
cerridwen Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I would if I wanted a relationship in which I silently stewed in resentment.
bernardverh Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 This is mostly not so black or white. For me it would depend on a lot of things, for example how and why the relationship ended.
SimonSerenade Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 a man that dated another girl for a 8 months after he dated you for 6, 7, or 8 years? Nope, If you mean't that much to him then he wouldn't of been with anybody else, People make all sorts of excuses for going after other people after a relationship has broken down but in reality there's no excuse for it unless you want to go and never come back and stick to it, Otherwise I'd say stay loyal and stay true to the person you love, Simple as that.
Star Gazer Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 A year ago, I would have said yes. But now, I would say no way in hell. Anyone who chooses someone else over me doesn't get a chance to choose me again... Good to know. But you're not really answering the OP's question. It doesn't sound like this guy chose someone else OVER her. Rather, he dated someone AFTER her. In essence, she's asking if you'd ever re-date someone after having moved on.
alwayshoping Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I wouldn't. When you meet the right person you won't ever break up. Well that's what I believe. Fight yes. See other people, errr no x
USMCHokie Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 But you're not really answering the OP's question. It doesn't sound like this guy chose someone else OVER her. Rather, he dated someone AFTER her. In essence, she's asking if you'd ever re-date someone after having moved on. Well, I guess there isn't enough information from the OP to answer the question definitively... If someone left me specifically for another person, then I stand by what I said earlier. If someone left me because they "weren't ready for a relationship" and then immediately jumped into one with someone else, then I stand by what I said earlier. However, if someone left me because we were incompatible at the time or circumstances made a relationship difficult or impossible, and over time we changed or circumstances changed, then I'd consider it. I guess it's a matter of how things ended. I do not really appreciate being expendable to another person where I was not appreciated for who I was. If it takes her going off with another guy to realize how much I "meant," then I feel that she never really appreciated me to begin with...
Author ginastar Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 we broke up cause i wanted to move forward with the relationship (we dated long enough) so maybe like marriage or live together was brought up. he didnt want that so we broke up. 2 weeks later he had a new hook up buddy, he saw some other girls during the time too, but now is just with the original hook up. she never knew he was with other girls. he actually dated her for a year now, but prob only exclusively for a few months.
USMCHokie Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 we broke up cause i wanted to move forward with the relationship (we dated long enough) so maybe like marriage or live together was brought up. he didnt want that so we broke up. 2 weeks later he had a new hook up buddy, he saw some other girls during the time too, but now is just with the original hook up. she never knew he was with other girls. he actually dated her for a year now, but prob only exclusively for a few months. Hmmm, wow...if after 6-8 years he broke up with you because he didn't want more, then I have a feeling his head wasn't in the game that whole time...perma-LAUNCH...
brown03 Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Depends if he is willing to move forward now and if you want to give him another chance. Some people are afraid of commitment and it takes breaking up to realize what they had and it was even worth taking the risk. I would sya if he is ready now and not going to do the same thing as he did to that girl then yeah sure if you still really love him try again.
Author ginastar Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 yea but does it really take 8 months with someone else to realize that??
hART Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 it depends, have you both changed the problems that lead to the breakup? (communication, trust..etc) If not, then no. If yes, then maybe. If yes, then why did you break up, was it a relationship issue (communication, respect, trust...) or a personal issue (like you too were just two different and drifted apart)? Personal issue, then no, except in the case that he just wanted to see what else was out there, then maybe. relationship issue, then maybe, depending on if both of you are willing to fix it. If it was cheating, that really depends on how open he was about it.
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