Author ginastar Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 so max, u think thats y the guy is not interested anymore? he was still texting me a few days after that thou
CLS63AMG Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 He bounced because you let him cum in your mouth and you dont even know him. He probably thinks you do that with all the guys that show interest in you. God I remember doing that with some broad last year, she swallowed 3 of my loads in the same night (first night)....BU BYE!!!
Mad Max Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 so max, u think thats y the guy is not interested anymore? he was still texting me a few days after that thou He wants more sex from you. That's why.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 idk, i guess im curious if thats the real reason hes backing out. it was a nice distraction of the ex bf I think you subconsciencely feel insecure because after spending 8 years with one person, you're afraid you won't be attractive to someone else. This guy, being the first guy in a long since your ex, decided to blow you off, thus your self-esteem is slightly bruised. Maybe your ex would reflect on you because of history, but to let this guy affect you is simply just a waste of time. I would just chalk it up to bad luck before I let a guy dictate my integrity as a person.
Author ginastar Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 i was feeling insecure when the ex left me for another woman, yes that makes u insecure. and i dont even know why i did this with this guy, its really not like me and im pist i messed it up
sugarmomma Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 why do you care what he thinks about you? He's no better than you so screw him if he doesn't come around. Next time don't feel obligated to suck his stick just because he went down on you. Its just sex, don't let someone's opinion of you define your self worth. His loss.
TaurusTerp Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 The more likely explanation is that he discovered that you didn't interest him after he wasn't blinded by the chase anymore.
Star Gazer Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 thanks everyone. so most of you dont think its cause i let him move too fast sexually? I do. I JUST had this conversation with a guy I had just started talking to, actually. He said something I've always believed, and no matter what anyone ever says, I will always believe: If you get sexually intimate (oral sex does count!) too fast for the context of your relationship (i.e., barely know each other), he will lose interest... FAST. That's what happened here. Time to move on.
Seamless74 Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 i swear to god its so frustrating to hear a woman use that logic oral sex is not sex... I mean thats just bad its like that dude at the club that one night that you let **** you in the bath room didnt count because it was just that dude at the club... Seriously even other girls have to realize how pathetic that type of logic is Morever and i ve never got this either how in the **** do you go down on someone and not have sex... I mean I seriously think thats like impossible and im not one to judge if its slutty or not but its just ignorant its like some girls saying ill go down and suck your dick but i wont let you screw me because im not ready for that yet and i want you to think im special.. I seriously think thats why he might have lost interest because your abit idiotic in that regard... who would want to deal with that???
NorthBound Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I absolutley think it was because you moved to fast with him Lol. He F***ed your face within a month of even seeing you haha. It is sex and I bet he was satisfied with the transaction. Either that was his chase and he had his fun, or he found a new chase(98% if the time.) If you want a guy with ill-intentions to be interested longer, play hard to get. If you're looking for love or any type of relationship that isn't based off sex, try to get to know the guy for a few months and see if you like them as a person rather then for his Looks/C**k/etc. Good luck
Seamless74 Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 +1 NORTHBOUND Ladies if you wanna go for the whole love, relationship, married, and mutual respect thing.. 3 months... thats how long you gotta hold off.. sorry
Mad Max Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 +1 NORTHBOUND Ladies if you wanna go for the whole love, relationship, married, and mutual respect thing.. 3 months... thats how long you gotta hold off.. sorry Not sure about 3 months, but it has to be a fair amount of time. And that includes not dating or sleeping with anyone prior to becoming exclusive.
BentSpine Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 People are different. I for one am grateful and respectful to a woman who goes out of her way to make me feel good.
Andy_K Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 You didn't mess up. He didn't 'lose' interest. He was never that interested in you, full stop. He was interested in getting his end away. He got what he wanted, and therefore having achieved the goal there was little else to play for. He texted you a couple more times in case it led to sex, but having already 'won' the game there wasn't much motivation. I suggest instead of trying to change your behaviour one way or another, you learn to be a better judge of character.
sanskrit Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Don't think of yourself as a slut, or that you lost out. You had a presumably mutually satisfying sexual encounter that probably won't result in more, but take it for what it was, not as an insult to you or a comment on your morals. Try to look back on it as just an experience and nothing more. As others say, if you want a relationship, go for that. Sex may or may not lead there, finding a guy who will spend time getting to know you and like you despite whether sex is involved or not will usually lead there though. Starting with sex, you are playing long odds. Expecting some consideration and real attention over time before sex is still not a sure thing, but much better odds.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 +1 NORTHBOUND Ladies if you wanna go for the whole love, relationship, married, and mutual respect thing.. 3 months... thats how long you gotta hold off.. sorry Three months is way too long.
Author ginastar Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 hmmm do u think if i act cool from here (cause i will see him) that there may be another chance that he would wanna continue the hooking up. at this point though we stopped texting each other. but do u think its done and never will be anymore interest or no?
Andy_K Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 hmmm do u think if i act cool from here (cause i will see him) that there may be another chance that he would wanna continue the hooking up. at this point though we stopped texting each other. but do u think its done and never will be anymore interest or no? There's a better approach. If you tell him you're just looking for some fun and you don't want anything serious, your chances of hooking up again will go up by about 1000%
sfl Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Sorry, but some of the above is absolutely rubbish, wait 3 months? My girlfriend and I are totally not the sort of people to sleep around (she's only ever been with one person before, I've only ever been with two) but we slept together within maybe 3 weeks of seeing each other - certainly didn't do us any harm, my insecurities aside we're going amazingly in fact, both hoping it's going to be a very (very very very) long term thing. I'd say you just found a dud, move on and find someone who wants the same things that you do.
thatsonlyme Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 +1 NORTHBOUND Ladies if you wanna go for the whole love, relationship, married, and mutual respect thing.. 3 months... thats how long you gotta hold off.. sorry You guys can't be serious!? and I thought I was old fashioned! Ginastar, maybe he was just looking for sex, once he got what he wanted he was done. It doesn't make you slut. and yes, oral sex is SEX, sometimes it can be even better and more intimate than intercourse. waiting certain amount of time before having sex is stupid IMHO, and it doesn't guarantee anything. If i really want to have only sex with you, I will wait those damn 3 months, f*** you and leave! People should have sex when they're ready, even if it's on a first date, so what? if you hit it off, go for it! I always have to use my ex as an example we knew each other for few months before we hooked up, so we had built some sexual tension there for sure, but when we made out first time she told me "I want you"! I don't remember details why but we didn't have sex that night but we did next time we met. we were just very sexually attracted to each other and there was no reason to wait. we ended up in 5 years relationship and I never considered her a slut. I even know that she was pretty damn wild before that, she had some ONS, random hook ups and such (she told me so) and it didn't prevent me from having a serious relationship with her and trusting her 100%. my point is, if you want sex, go for it! as long as you don't go around sucking random guys d**s just for fun and you're having sex only with people you're interested in, you're not a slut in my book. If they lose interest that's their fault, not yours.
denise_xo Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Do YOU think you're a slut?? Set your own standards.
stillafool Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I think the guy saw you at the gym, the flirting and all made him want to have sex with you again (and yes oral is sex), and maybe wants to have intercourse with you again. Is he serious about the two of you getting back together? - I don't think so or he would have said something along those lines by now. The question is why do you want to have a "hook up" relationship with someone you were already seeing for 8 years and dropped you for another girl? I think you are more emotionally invested than he is and the type of relationship you are proposing will surely leave you with a huge broken heart in the end.
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