paixe Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 So I've been looking all over the internet about how important No Contact is, and how it's helpful and everything. And I totally buy it. But no one seems to be talking about whether or not to tell your ex that you're doing it. I'm leaning toward yes. I have so many, many, many things I want to say, though, that I have no idea how I would even write such an email. So, should I even tell her? And if I do, how much do I say? Because I could ramble on for pages. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
strangeways Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 No. Don't tell her just do it. Nothing you say now will make ANY difference. It's a way for you to heal not getting her back. For some reason, I get from your post, you think it'll get her back. Maybe it will but probably not. Use it in the way it's intended.
cerridwen Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Like strangeways implied, a lot has to do with your motivations. The best case scenario would be if you want to communicate how you're feeling before NC because you know it'll help bring closure. That's what I did and it has helped. I feel like I emptied out as much as I could then went cold turkey. Sure, I still have more to say but the majority of it is out. He understands the main points. I had read that it's a good idea to tell the person you won't be answering calls, texts, or emails.
Chance_taker Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Vanish it will have the biggest impact when you're no longer there for her, and when you start to completely move on she will come sniffing around again.
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