Stephie Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Its like a drug... I know I just hurt myself more so why can't I stop? If it wasn't for facebook I would have no idea who he was dating and what she looks like or much less know that he was in a relationship. Its like I look for hints to think he knows he screwed up and still cares. I got those for a long time just by seeing his email or what he was writing on facebook. It's not like we ever stopped, I have held on to hope for 7 months now because we would still talk. Then I thought if he found someone it would be closeure and I could easily move on. Ugh I have met some fantastic men and its like I want them for a while then I stop caring because I am so scared of getting hurt again, or maybe its cause I can't let him go fully, or maybe its because for the first time in my life I am putting me first. I know you have to feel hurt to know joy, but I wont be able to survive another heartache like that ever!
stopthemadness Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Its like a drug... I know I just hurt myself more so why can't I stop? If it wasn't for facebook I would have no idea who he was dating and what she looks like or much less know that he was in a relationship. Its like I look for hints to think he knows he screwed up and still cares. I got those for a long time just by seeing his email or what he was writing on facebook. It's not like we ever stopped, I have held on to hope for 7 months now because we would still talk. Then I thought if he found someone it would be closeure and I could easily move on. Ugh I have met some fantastic men and its like I want them for a while then I stop caring because I am so scared of getting hurt again, or maybe its cause I can't let him go fully, or maybe its because for the first time in my life I am putting me first. I know you have to feel hurt to know joy, but I wont be able to survive another heartache like that ever! Ok I could have wrote this letter. You sound just like me! I feel like hes a drug and am having a hard time kicking it. Iam seeing a theapist and shes awesome. But I really wish I could some how heal faster ya know? I too look for signs thats hes screwed up. Because I email him like once a week!! I know, I know DONT!! am trying I really am! I just miss him.. But I think its finally getting through. That man dont want to be with me. Even if the relationship hes in now is going nowhere. Dont mean hes gona want me when it fails..Am just having a bad day.Tommorow will be better Sorry for the break down guys.....Sorry am no help Stepine..And I think I just messed up a new start with a new guy too!! I just wasnt ready..
ohno89 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Honestly...if I could give one vital piece of advice to anyone who has just broken up with someone, is avoid Facebook. Like the PLAGUE!! A lot easier said than done I know because I did it myself...still do at tmes! But I wish, wish, wish someone had told me..I wish when I went to the extent of asking my friend if I could use HER fb to look on my ex's profile, she just said no. There is nothing, and I mean NOTHING you can gain from seeing your ex's FB, except if they had their status is "omg, I miss my ex, I love them so much and wish we never broke up!!" Whiiiiich, let's face it - isn't gonna happen. Just like you guys, I wouldn't know who my ex cheated on me with and left me for, what she looked like and how's she's annoyingly quite pretty, pictures of the holiday they went on not even a month after we broke up, that he lived with her for a bit, that she helped him find a nice new apartment, that they've met each others mums.....yup, all from FB stalking. And half of that's not even from either of their profiles! Its awful isn't it?! But its addictive. Its self-harming. And every time I found something new, saw a new picture, it would immediately ruin my mood for atleast a couple days and its horrible. Yet, no ones making me do it? Or you. Honestly, please, please go NC. And that includes FB. ESPECIALLY facebook infact. Hide them, delete them, block 'em! And everything you can get rid of to do with them. You'll be thankful you did in 6 months time, I promise.
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