hearttobreak Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 The more and more I see, more and more women in their late 20's and early to mid 30's are looking for casual dating and not really relationships anymore. At least, that is what it seems in the DE/PA region. And I get turned off by that. I am not looking for a FWB or sex buddy, I am looking to start a relationship with a woman. Too concerned with STDs and emotions to do the casual sex dating thing. What is happening to our world?
kdark Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Women are exercising their right to get involved in whatever relationship they choose to enter, with whoever they want to. The days of a man having a job and not being a wife beater as being the only requirements needed to land a wife are over, and some men can't catch up with the times. Women don't need a man to survive, and so they are enjoying casual sex with whoever they please since they aren't obligated to keep a bread winner happy at home. I think it's wonderful time to be dating.
Author hearttobreak Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Has nothing to do with being a wife beater or a bread winner. It has nothing to do with money. I am all for independent women. More power to them. It has to do with being in a relationship vs. f**k buddies. It seems, more women rather be f**k buddies than in a relationship nowadays.
kdark Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I wasn't implying that you were a wife beater or wanting to be the sole bread winner. I'm just saying women have higher standards than 60 years ago, and aren't getting in relationships as quick as before. But women still need sex, so that's how they are getting it, through casual sex.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 The more and more I see, more and more women in their late 20's and early to mid 30's are looking for casual dating and not really relationships anymore. At least, that is what it seems in the DE/PA region. And I get turned off by that. I am not looking for a FWB or sex buddy, I am looking to start a relationship with a woman. Too concerned with STDs and emotions to do the casual sex dating thing. What is happening to our world? It's retarded. I see a huge push for this kind of thing in popular culture... they are even starting to make movies about it, where of course FWB's fall in love. Why are we constantly telling young women that they can't be whole without a man. Now they are so desperate that it doesn't even matter how much of the man they get. In the end only the only guys that are happy with this are the whoremongers. The guys that love prostitutes, but don't like spending the money are totally exstatic about this new development in U.S. culture.
kdark Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 It's retarded. I see a huge push for this kind of thing in popular culture... they are even starting to make movies about it, where of course FWB's fall in love. Why are we constantly telling young women that they can't be whole without a man. Now they are so desperate that it doesn't even matter how much of the man they get. In the end only the only guys that are happy with this are the whoremongers. The guys that love prostitutes, but don't like spending the money are totally exstatic about this new development in U.S. culture. We tell women that they can be whole without a man because we tell men they can be whole without a woman. It's only fair.
Author hearttobreak Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Just went through this experience. She no longer wanted anything serious, just causal. Since I do not subscribe to that mythology, I left. Now she hates me for it. In reality, it just means I respect my body more than she respects hers. It wasn't long until she found another guy to do her. That's all they do, he stays over the weekend and they have sex. Nothing else. I just find a woman who can just do that very unappealing. I could be in the minority though.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I wasn't implying that you were a wife beater or wanting to be the sole bread winner. I'm just saying women have higher standards than 60 years ago, and aren't getting in relationships as quick as before. But women still need sex, so that's how they are getting it, through casual sex. No they don't! Standards have gone down for sure. I look at what my grandmother used as selection criteria and what my sister uses... and women today are pathetic by comparison. My grandmother was looking for a quality man. My sister is looking for a working penis and a wallet. How is that higher standards?
kdark Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 No they don't! Standards have gone down for sure. I look at what my grandmother used as selection criteria and what my sister uses... and women today are pathetic by comparison. My grandmother was looking for a quality man. My sister is looking for a working penis and a wallet. How is that higher standards? I doubt those are her only criteria for a man. Even if those are her only criteria, then she sounds like a gold digger, which was much more prevalent in your grandmothers time period. And when I look around these forums at some of the female posters, I definitely see that standards for men have risen.
Untouchable_Fire Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I doubt those are her only criteria for a man. Even if those are her only criteria, then she sounds like a gold digger, which was much more prevalent in your grandmothers time period. And when I look around these forums at some of the female posters, I definitely see that standards for men have risen. Yes standards have increased for all things shallow. 2 generations back, standards were more about what kind of husband he will make. Today it's all about how does he make me feel, which is fantastically ephemeral. There is very little intelligence involved it's all chemicals. Like most drugs it feels great, but the consequences are bad.
Mad Max Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 For women that have casual sex regularly, what they don't realize is they will a very hard time finding a quality man once they're used up. It's a hard reality, but it's the truth. It might be a double standard, but it still exists and likely always will. Why should I settle for a woman that had casual sex and has low self-esteem when I can hold out for one that never had casual sex and has high self-esteem?
Citizen Erased Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Just went through this experience. She no longer wanted anything serious, just causal. Since I do not subscribe to that mythology, I left. Now she hates me for it. In reality, it just means I respect my body more than she respects hers. It wasn't long until she found another guy to do her. That's all they do, he stays over the weekend and they have sex. Nothing else. I just find a woman who can just do that very unappealing. I could be in the minority though. At least she was truthful with you and didn't keep you around and then start screwing around. Some people aren't ready for a serious relationship, it isn't a crime. I find anyone that sleeps around to be beyond my comprehension, man or woman, but just because I won't sleep with a man that isn't committed to me means everyone else should do the same.
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 There are women who want relationships, and there are women who don't. I'm sure you will find that the same statement is true for men. Personally I've always been a relationship person, but I did have a small period of "sexual exploration" in between my last relationship and my current one. There were multiple reasons for it; one being that I'd spent 6 years in relationships between high school and college and desired freedom and new experiences. Eventually I was ready for a relationship again. A woman who is just looking for something non-commital is often in a busy time during her life. Maybe she's focusing on school, a career, or both, and isn't ready to invest emotionally in a relationship. At least they're being up front about it, rather than entering a relationship they can't devote themselves entirely to.
Citizen Erased Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 For women that have casual sex regularly, what they don't realize is they will a very hard time finding a quality man once they're used up. It's a hard reality, but it's the truth. It might be a double standard, but it still exists and likely always will. Why should I settle for a woman that had casual sex and has low self-esteem when I can hold out for one that never had casual sex and has high self-esteem? Funny, I think the same thing about men.
NoLongerSad Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 My sister is looking for a working penis and a wallet. And, they don't even have to both be attached to the same guy.
Star Gazer Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Most women (MOST, not all) who enter into casual/FWB relationships are settling for scraps. They really like a guy, or just need some attention, and they just take what they can get while PRETENDING that's all they want. Truth is, most women want more than a casual f***.
Author hearttobreak Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Most women (MOST, not all) who enter into casual/FWB relationships are settling for scraps. They really like a guy, or just need some attention, and they just take what they can get while PRETENDING that's all they want. Truth is, most women want more than a casual f***. LOL. Tell that to my ex.
Cee Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I used to try to get love from sex. And then I learned to separate love from sex. I guess that's why I'm happy being single. I have love from friends and family. And I have one or two FwB's to visit to take the edge off. My friends say I act like a man. I don't think so because I need love more than sex. Therefore, I have 10 people to love and care for me and 2 people to bang me. I like that arrangement.
Surrealist Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 For women that have casual sex regularly, what they don't realize is they will a very hard time finding a quality man once they're used up. It's a hard reality, but it's the truth. It might be a double standard, but it still exists and likely always will. Why should I settle for a woman that had casual sex and has low self-esteem when I can hold out for one that never had casual sex and has high self-esteem? So true, the women are only hurting themselves in the longer run. Funny, I think the same thing about men. Thanks goodness, seriously. I understand you're in a good healthy relationship and this thinking by both guys and women is what will ensure strong healthy romantic relationships will continue in the future. Commendable.
waynebrady Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Considering women's passive and aloof behaviour when it comes to both I doub't they even want relationships or sex.
Citizen Erased Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Considering women's passive and aloof behaviour when it comes to both I doub't they even want relationships or sex with me. There, I fixed it for you.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 There, I fixed it for you. :lmao: Why all the stigma against women who aren't afraid about wanting sex? I hear all the hate for loose women but never loose men.
BrianK Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Hang around your fwb long enough and if you have game they will fall in love, HARD. Unless she wants absolutely nothing to do with you besides sex.
Mad Max Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 :lmao: Why all the stigma against women who aren't afraid about wanting sex? I hear all the hate for loose women but never loose men. Because it's something that will never go away. Women can generally get sex whenever they want. They only need to put in a minimal effort, so giving it up easily and having sex outside of relationships is frowned upon. I don't have sex outside outside of relationships and I expect the women I date to be the same. I hold myself to the exact same standard.
waynebrady Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 There, I fixed it for you. I don't see women pursuing any other guys for sex or relationships either. Infact it has been proven several times by women on here that they won't go after a guy no matter what and would rather stay passive. It's funny how some women like you say it's just me that is the problem You women won't pursue ANY guy for either sex or a relationship which proves my point. So obviously it's not just me.
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