northern_sky Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I mean I knew he wanted to move back to NY at some point, but he always made it sound like something that wasn't in the near future. Based on a facebook, it sounds like he has plans to move in a month. He was at my place last night, we discussed career goals, etc, and he never once told me he was moving any time soon. Also, never mentioned this when we talked about defining our "relationship." Ugh, I know what we have is casual, but given that he knows I have feelings for him, and that we've shared a lot more than a physical connection (long conversations, revealed a lot about ourselves), I feel like it's really ****ty for him to not tell me this. Should I confront him and ask? I almost feel like i don't have permission to.
Author northern_sky Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 I don't understand him. After he left I sent him a one line email asking about a camera he suggested I buy last night (I couldn't remember the name). In response, he immediately sends me FOUR long emails with detailed advice and links. He also ordered a special adapter after he left my house in part so I could use it for my camera. He goes overboard whenever it comes to helping me with anything practical, yet he is emotionally empty and insensitive. I mean not telling me you're moving, really?? Fck this. Screw him. This is just depressing. I need to let him go. I'm going to take Star's advice from another thread and sever all ties in my mind. If he contacts me, I'll respond to not burn bridges, but I will NOT initiate any more contact.
Author northern_sky Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 I think my interest in him is officially dead. This is the first time I feel nothing after seeing him. I'm relieved. I can do better.
welikeincrowds Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Yes, confront him, with a dossier full of photographic evidence, and a knife
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Choosing not to tell you he's moving does NOT indicate that he is "emotionally empty." I'm sure he has his reasons. There is also the good chance that you have misinterpreted some casual fb post and are now using that to stir up some toxic drama for yourself. Thank goodness your interest in him is officially dead. Like it should have been back at the beginning of your obsession with him, when he let you know he did not share the same type / level of interest. Leave it!
Author northern_sky Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Choosing not to tell you he's moving does NOT indicate that he is "emotionally empty." I'm sure he has his reasons. There is also the good chance that you have misinterpreted some casual fb post and are now using that to stir up some toxic drama for yourself. Thank goodness your interest in him is officially dead. Like it should have been back at the beginning of your obsession with him, when he let you know he did not share the same type / level of interest. Leave it! "I'm sure he has his reasons?" I'm sorry, but it's really insensitive for him not to tell me if he is indeed moving in a few weeks. In general, I agree with your advice, but not this bit.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Well he's not your boyfriend so I don't understand why he needs to report back to you about every decision he makes. And you certainly don't have leash on him... Although the mental leash is every bit visible in your posts about him.
Author northern_sky Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Well he's not your boyfriend so I don't understand why he needs to report back to you about every decision he makes. And you certainly don't have leash on him... Although the mental leash is every bit visible in your posts about him. He's at least my friend, though (he's told me several times that he considers me his friend), and he also considers us to be dating (something he's said). So even though we're not in a serious relaitonship, I think he could at least be sensitive enough to tell me he's moving in a few weeks. Jeez you guys are oto much sometimes...
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