OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 I agree, he is more than likely not. My boyfriend is exactly as she described J... in fact when my SO was a kid his teachers told his parents that they thought my bf had Asperger's. He does not, and J more than likely does not, either. And even if he does have Asperger... who cares? He's moving, aren't you done with him? He is moving only few hours away and there is a bus between 2 cities that is really cheap. So they can technically continue their "relationship". I am posting for Shadow as she is on the moderated status.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 He is moving only few hours away and there is a bus between 2 cities that is really cheap. So they can technically continue their "relationship". I am posting for Shadow as she is on the moderated status. Umm okay good luck then. I'm out.
OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 She asked him when he is moving and he responded that it is between 1st and 31st of Jan and that he only found out last week. He apologized for not telling her the last time he saw her as he has trouble bringing up difficult topics even though he acknowledges it is no excuse. They have plans to see each other again soon
Star Gazer Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 They have plans to see each other again soon Why? He repulsed her earlier today, when she thought he wasn't interested. Now that he seems to be, I guess he's not so repulsive anymore? Does whether he's a good/bad, nice/repulsive guy really just depend on whether she's getting the response she wants?? I can't keep this all straight.
OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Why? He repulsed her earlier today, when she thought he wasn't interested. Now that he seems to be, I guess he's not so repulsive anymore? Does whether he's a good/bad, nice/repulsive guy really just depend on whether she's getting the response she wants?? I can't keep this all straight. We all do this to some extent. Didn't you think that Skiman was the best thing since sliced bread once? And after your R ended your opinion of him has changed quite dramatically..
Star Gazer Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 We all do this to some extent. Didn't you think that Skiman was the best thing since sliced bread once? And after your R ended your opinion of him has changed quite dramatically.. Skiman cannot be compared to J, nor can my 19+ month serious, marriage-minded relationship with him be compared to her FWB scenario with J. I still do think Skiman is a truly good person. Yes, he's got a real drinking problem, and an aversion to conflict (cannot communicate disagreement/unhappiness/needs for improvement), which make it impossible to be in an emotionally fulfilling relationship with him. But he's never once repulsed me, nor did I blame him when he crushed me. I initially shouldered nearly all of the responsibility. I still thought he was my dream man. It took me a while to recognize the role he played.
OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 I don't think that Shadow said that J ever repulsed her. If anything, she may find someone who has emotional issues endearing.
tigressA Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 I don't think that Shadow said that J ever repulsed her. If anything, she may find someone who has emotional issues endearing. Sure, as long as they dance to her tune.
Recommended Posts