StreetDog Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 ...Not all the time but mostly. I'm not super crazy, life-of-the-party so maybe that's it but i'm fun, i'm a nice guy, i do like to socialize, etc. But I've always felt like the uncool guy in a lot of ways. It doesn't ruin my life and I don't harp on it but I've felt that way. I tend to be a quiet guy and not loud and obnoxious but I have NO problem engaging in conversation or striking up a convo. Cases: My Cousin I grew up with opened a record shop recently with his girlfriend about a mile from my House and had a Huge Opening party (were both musicians) but didn't invite me or tell me about it. In fact i'll call him to say hi, see what's up, but he never calls me back. I'll call or email other friends to see what's up or Facebook some old friends to see what's going on and a lot of the time, they never seem to answer. Maybe i'm being a little too sensitive but I start wondering sometimes, "Why do i try?" I'm not an A-Hole, I'm a nice guy, good musician, i like to talk about movies, music, I do art, etc. Granted, I don't do a lot of INVITING or INITIATING of events or hangouts so maybe I should, to show people that they are welcomed by me or something. I don't know. It confuses me.
desertIslandCactus Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Make Your Own music. Should you ever find any dear loyal friends, invite them to your own party - feed and entertain them..
ALonerAgain Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 ... I'll call or email other friends to see what's up or Facebook some old friends to see what's going on and a lot of the time, they never seem to answer. Maybe i'm being a little too sensitive but I start wondering sometimes, "Why do i try?" I'm not an A-Hole, I'm a nice guy, good musician, i like to talk about movies, music, I do art, etc. Granted, I don't do a lot of INVITING or INITIATING of events or hangouts so maybe I should, to show people that they are welcomed by me or something. I don't know. It confuses me. Hey, sounds like you and I have the same problem. It annoys me. But also makes me feel worthless and rejected. Of the times that I do invite people out, most times they'll say 'yes' but as soon as the day arrives, 'something comes up' (eg. 'I'm too tired'; 'No money'; etc). I try not to take it personally, but really, sometimes I just feel like I shouldn't bother - so I don't. And when it does work out, it's like the best thing ever - but then I have to live with the fact that 1) nobody else will bother organising anything for at least another few months. 2) I try and keep my hopes down. I say, at least try to initiate SOMETHING. Doesn't have to be big. Or make new friends. Sometimes 'old friends' just have a completely different life to you now. Esp. with FB, sometimes people don't even bother getting involved but just like to 'people watch' (I'm starting to get that feeling - but I guess that's why the FB Cull exists! )
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