blue 75 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 (edited) My Bf and I never fight or argue..We always talk happily and got along very well. Then last week he was talking to me in his office and then he said he has to log off for now because someone is checking his computer for some security data. They merge to another company that why. Since that night i never hear from him anymore. Its more than a week now that he never message me. I sent him loads of messages asking him what went wrong. I sent him voicemail Called his mobile phone...Text him but no news at all. He doesnt seem to be opening his email. Is he ignoring me, or is this a sign of breaking up with me? I am so worried. This is not the first time he never message. he'd done it a few times but only takes 3 days and then he will message me after that. He just said he was so busy with work ect ect..I love him so i said thats fine. he even call me a worry wart when i get so worried not hearing from him for few days. This last one is the longest. I don't know if he is sick or what. Because no sign of him at all. What im wondering is if he wants to break up with me why he never delete me from his contact.we used to talk in Google and i see his contact still in my contact and in Facebook im still connected to him. Do i have the right to think that he might be ignoring me or breaking up with me by not contacting me. Im worried sick also that something might have happen to him.. Please tell me what to do? Thank you Edited November 17, 2010 by blue 75 none
madjac74 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 So how well do you know this guy? length of relationship? Have you ever met in person? How far a part do you live? Honestly to me it sounds like he's married.
Author blue 75 Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 (edited) So how well do you know this guy? length of relationship? Have you ever met in person? How far a part do you live? Honestly to me it sounds like he's married. Hi thank you for your reply. I've known him for 6 months. He is kind thats why i dont know why he is ignoring me. Bcoz i told him before that if he wants a break up he would tell me no matter what so i can move on with my life. We seen each other 2 months ago. I dont think he is married because i get to see him on his webcam in his house, every night when he is still talking to me. And he told me he is divorced for years already. We are 1000 miles away now.. But we planned to have xmas together.. Edited November 17, 2010 by blue 75
madjac74 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Ok I dont want to think the worst but Im just trying to open your mind to the possibility that he isnt everything you think he is. The fact that he can shut you out for 3 days at a time should worry you. Even when my gf and I broke up we couldnt go 12 hrs without speaking to each other. If he isnt married, maybe consider the fact that he has other LDR's. I think the disappearing act is definitely cause for concern.
Author blue 75 Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Ok I dont want to think the worst but Im just trying to open your mind to the possibility that he isnt everything you think he is. The fact that he can shut you out for 3 days at a time should worry you. Even when my gf and I broke up we couldnt go 12 hrs without speaking to each other. If he isnt married, maybe consider the fact that he has other LDR's. I think the disappearing act is definitely cause for concern. Hi i dont know what else to think. Im exhausted in thinking all the possible reason why he never come online. AND if possible i dont want to think he is going to break up with me,,, because im holding onto all his promises to me. I tried hard to communicate with him because LDR needs more communication in every way. All im hoping now is he should at least tell me.. So i can stop thinking and worrying..I dont see all my emails been open also. In Facebook our relationship status is still there.. all i can do is think, worry and guess.. Thanks for replying.
Author blue 75 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Hi thanks for the reply. Its over now. I found out that my BF is ignoring me. I dont know why. I caught him on his house phone today. He answered the phone but hung up on me... I dont know why he is afraid to face me and tell me its over. Its soooo hurting..
hoping2heal Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Hi thanks for the reply. Its over now. I found out that my BF is ignoring me. I dont know why. I caught him on his house phone today. He answered the phone but hung up on me... I dont know why he is afraid to face me and tell me its over. Its soooo hurting.. I am so sorry this happened to you. I think he was never real with you, perhaps with Christmas approaching he knew the "hoax" would be up and it was time to jump ship. There are many people who have been swindled by a false internet "love". A good friend of my mother's talked to a man online upward of 9 months, she spoke to whom she was told were his "kids" a few times briefly, and everything. He set up for the two of them to meet 3 times; one of those times she ended up in a terrible car wreck. Finally, it came out he had been lying to her the whole time. Everything she knew about him was a made up scenario he created. Please don't be down on yourself for this, it is nothing you did. It is better you find out now than a year or two down the line and find out you have been swindled.
Author blue 75 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 I am so sorry this happened to you. I think he was never real with you, perhaps with Christmas approaching he knew the "hoax" would be up and it was time to jump ship. There are many people who have been swindled by a false internet "love". A good friend of my mother's talked to a man online upward of 9 months, she spoke to whom she was told were his "kids" a few times briefly, and everything. He set up for the two of them to meet 3 times; one of those times she ended up in a terrible car wreck. Finally, it came out he had been lying to her the whole time. Everything she knew about him was a made up scenario he created. Please don't be down on yourself for this, it is nothing you did. It is better you find out now than a year or two down the line and find out you have been swindled. Thank you.(I didnt meet him online, just to let you know). Just hurting so much. I know i have to move on. I have to pick up the pieces of my life again. I hate this feeling but life goes on..Im tired crying and thinking over it. I even prayed that the time he is not contacting me , he is fine and not sick or not into bad circumstances....
madjac74 Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Well he probably hung up on you because someone else was there...ie a wife! You should be pissed but also thankful you arent married to such a creep. I think you should call often and in the middle of the night
Author blue 75 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Well he probably hung up on you because someone else was there...ie a wife! You should be pissed but also thankful you arent married to such a creep. I think you should call often and in the middle of the night Maybe his ex GF..I suspect theyre back together. All he could say when i called him is hello, when i said hey and said his name he was maybe stunned..and hung up the phone. The other thing is, he must be surprise for my call because he didnt know i got his phone number and address and his office number which is he never give to me. Well i maybe stupid in love but im smart when tracing people who play hide and seek. Today i called him many time, but its going back to ring and voicemail... Why couldnt he tell me its over... Damned!! Its very easy to say specially if he is really playing. He is God fearing also, a christian man. He knows this is not the right way to break up with his GF.. He is educated...he cant even face me and tell me its over. He was hiding and ignoring me... and this is torturing ...
madjac74 Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Religion and education do not necessarily make someone a good person. In fact it can often do the opposite. Just be glad you found out this guy is a lying coward and move on to better things. There are plenty of guys out there who dont treat women like that.
Author blue 75 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Religion and education do not necessarily make someone a good person. In fact it can often do the opposite. Just be glad you found out this guy is a lying coward and move on to better things. There are plenty of guys out there who dont treat women like that. Yeah. But i have to deal with this heartache first...Maybe ill stay in this forum to make friends to talk to so i can move on quickly.. Its not easy to start a new life again...
Author blue 75 Posted November 18, 2010 Author Posted November 18, 2010 Well he probably hung up on you because someone else was there...ie a wife! You should be pissed but also thankful you arent married to such a creep. I think you should call often and in the middle of the night Maybe his ex GF..I suspect theyre back together. All he could say when i called him is hello, when i said hey and said his name he was maybe stunned..and hung up the phone. The other thing is, he must be surprise for my call because he didnt know i got his phone number and address and his office number which is he never give to me. Well i maybe stupid in love but im smart when tracing people who play hide and seek. Today i called him many time, but its going back to ring and voicemail... Why couldnt he tell me its over... Damned!! Its very easy to say specially if he is really playing. He is God fearing also, a christian man. He knows this is not the right way to break up with his GF.. He is educated...he cant even face me and tell me its over. He was hiding and ignoring me... and this is torturing ...
maria_patheticsoul Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Maybe his ex GF..I suspect theyre back together. All he could say when i called him is hello, when i said hey and said his name he was maybe stunned..and hung up the phone. The other thing is, he must be surprise for my call because he didnt know i got his phone number and address and his office number which is he never give to me. Well i maybe stupid in love but im smart when tracing people who play hide and seek. Today i called him many time, but its going back to ring and voicemail... Why couldnt he tell me its over... Damned!! Its very easy to say specially if he is really playing. He is God fearing also, a christian man. He knows this is not the right way to break up with his GF.. He is educated...he cant even face me and tell me its over. He was hiding and ignoring me... and this is torturing ... Just put it this way...maybe he is a coward..i advice you move on...it's difficult but you sure know you need to...some men are really like that very brave to play games but a coward when cornered..be glad that you found out about him ignoring you that simply means maybe he doesn't love you or he never did...i am so sorry to tell you this...but of course no one can help you sort this thing out but only yourself...goodluck and i hope you will feel better soon.
Author blue 75 Posted November 25, 2010 Author Posted November 25, 2010 Just put it this way...maybe he is a coward..i advice you move on...it's difficult but you sure know you need to...some men are really like that very brave to play games but a coward when cornered..be glad that you found out about him ignoring you that simply means maybe he doesn't love you or he never did...i am so sorry to tell you this...but of course no one can help you sort this thing out but only yourself...goodluck and i hope you will feel better soon. Hi thanks, your right. I have to move on. And i have to stay strong in this. Thank so much..All im hoping from him is he should at least tell me why because as far as i know we never had any argument..
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