nice-easy-day Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 A girl that I only went on three dates with just broke it off with me. I was totally into her but obviously she didn't feel the same. I know it's just a crush and infatuation because I really don't know this girl but I feel completely heart broken. This has happened 2 or 3 times in my life where it was hard to let go of a girl I only dated casually. My question is does anyone else experience this "crush" and then heartbreak really early on? I just wonder if something is wrong with me. Psychologists probably have a name for it too LOL. Seriously though, I know I'll be able to get over it quick (hopefully). Just wondering if anyone can add to this.
Alobar Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 It's not weird at all. I dated a girl for roughly 2 months before she decided she wanted to be with her ex-bf. We never did anything super-emotional so technically I shouldn't have gotten as attached as I did, but for some reason that hurt so much. It took me forever to get over a stupid 2 month relationship. I think it has to do with rejection coupled with the shock of infatuation breaking off suddenly. After a 10 year relationship that initial passion and fire is gone, so breakups, while still painful as hell, are painful in a different way. Trust me, you'll be alright in a little while. It definitely doesn't feel like it now, and that little while may extend past whatever reasonable expectations assume. Just don't feel ashamed of how you feel. If you feel sad over something like this, that's totally fine. Let yourself be sad if you feel like it and you will feel better before you know it. Don't succumb to the pressures of "normality".
WTRanger Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 It could be due to the fact that early on in any sort of relationship your body is being flooded with good feeling chemicals. If that source is all of a sudden interrupted, your body may be fighting the instant-detox.
poorguy Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I think they bother you because the new relationship never has the abilty to reach it's potential potenial-so you just sort of wonder what could have been. If she just broke up from a LTR she could have still wanted her ex
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