mortensorchid Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I have been thinking that since it's nearly the holidays, that maybe I need to do some thinking on my upcoming plans. A few weeks ago, I started seeing this WONDERFUL man. Just when you think it's hopeless, something wonderful happens like they say. We're very happy these days, save for the fact that we are both extraordinarily busy. Next week is Thanksgiving. I asked him what his plans are, just out of curiosity. He's divorced, has four siblings, and his parents live on the west coast. He said he had no plans as his parents are not coming in, and his siblings are off with their spouses / others. I think it's too soon to ask him to come home with me and meet my family, it's only been a few weeks. However, I am starting to think "when should I?". Christmas is far away at this point, but, how long should I wait before I bring him to meet my family? Friends are not an issue, as we have many of the same friends and he's already a part of the group.
Confusedalways Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I have been thinking that since it's nearly the holidays, that maybe I need to do some thinking on my upcoming plans. A few weeks ago, I started seeing this WONDERFUL man. Just when you think it's hopeless, something wonderful happens like they say. We're very happy these days, save for the fact that we are both extraordinarily busy. Next week is Thanksgiving. I asked him what his plans are, just out of curiosity. He's divorced, has four siblings, and his parents live on the west coast. He said he had no plans as his parents are not coming in, and his siblings are off with their spouses / others. I think it's too soon to ask him to come home with me and meet my family, it's only been a few weeks. However, I am starting to think "when should I?". Christmas is far away at this point, but, how long should I wait before I bring him to meet my family? Friends are not an issue, as we have many of the same friends and he's already a part of the group. I was sort of in the same position-- I did a lot of googling and such and realized that while some people think meeting the family is too soon after a few weeks, essentially it's YOUR relationship. The thought of my boyfriend alone on thanksgiving just because I was basically too selfish to invite him did NOT bode well with me. If I was alone for the holidays- I'd be very grateful if my boyfriend invited me to go to his house. So, I asked him to come to mine-making it very clear it was a no pressure invite.
ReturnToSender Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Eh if you want to invite him, do. If he feels its too soon to meet the fam he'll decline, but will appreciate the offer Im sure. Not sure I would, only cause I dont intro anyone into my family unless its a serious relationship...I view meeting my fam as a huge step but thats just me. Most of my cousins come with someone new all the time...heck the person they are with at t-day wont necessarily be who comes with them at christmas...come easter dinner, another new face at the table. So I guess for many, its not really that big a deal.
tantus Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 It's great that you guys have many people that are the same friends , but seeing how they act around friends verses family it completely different. If things don't go well when he is a thanksgiving then you know you need to just be friends with the guy. Family is for life and always date a person who could be future husband meaning part of the family. I say go for it!
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