simon peter Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I feel lonely in a room full of people. Oh, I can talk and socialize, but in the end I'm alone. I go home to a house alone, wait for the right time to go pick up my daughter from Track practice at school. Drive her home, she doesn't really have anything to say to me during the short trip of ten minutes. She goes upstairs to her room and does her school work and then shower. Sometime later, my wife comes home. She drops her stuff and goes upstairs to change out of her work clothes. After a while, she returns downstairs to go outside for a cigarette. I don't smoke, quit years ago, can't stand the smell. Wife takes over the kitchen table to grade papers for her class. I really feel like the only thing I'm good for is a paycheck and fixing the things they break, or doing the maintenance on their cars. I haven't had sex in over three years, not because I didn't want to. I've been rebuffed so many times, I've given up on that part of my relationship. When I try to ask what the problem is with me that makes her not interested, I get, "Its not you its me." Well, what is the issue? "I don't know." Knowing what heartache is like after having my first wife cheat on me, I vowed never to do that to someone I loved. Its getting harder to keep that vow. I just don't know what to do anymore. I can get those needs taken care of with another woman, who wants no commitment. She's lonely to. What the hell do I do???
Ajax Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 It sounds like you and your wife have a communication problem. How often do you talk to her? Do you go out with her? If not then start there. If that doesn't work, or she refuses to spend time with you then I'd look into marriage counseling. Also, I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but is it possible that she's the one cheating on you? Maybe she's already satisfied by someone else. Hopefully that's not the case. Whatever you do, don't cheat on her. Get help for your marriage.
theBrokenMuse Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 What the hell do I do??? You sit her down and tell her what you've told us here. That you are unhappy. That "I don't know" isn't a sufficent answer to your question and that if she has no answers then it's time for answers to be sought with a professional as making a partner go without physical intimacy for three years is not acceptable.
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