studiomuffin Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I've been trying to go back out with this girl whom i was with a couple weeks ago at the weekend, i got her number and things were good. Her friends and her actions from that night kinda confirmed she was shy. Even some of her friends told me she was quiet, "mummies girl" and sensitive. I got back in touch with her and she seems keen by isn't sure about going out this week because she doesn't have the cash. I then invite her out that weekend for a few drinks on me but she calls in sick at the last minute, I was considering just leaving her be then but she suprized me when she offered to meet up next week. We organise something for this thursday. I then try to set up a time to go out that day with her and i get a "maybe". I sent her a text about if we are still meeting up and no reply, i got on facebook and she tells me shes got no credit when i confront her. I then just lay it down that i like her and want to get to know her better but that i was getting frustrated since shes not giving me an answer. I then said that i wanted to give it a try but i'm not sure if i'm wasting my time. She then just tells me that shes working all week and wants thursday night in. That obviously makes it clear shes blowing me off and making excuses because 1, why even set up a day together which you know you won't be up for and 2, she doesn't even work. I just told her don't worry about it and i just wanted an answer and to know where i stand. This is all over the course of a week and a half and i think i've been patient enough and given her plenty of opportunities to hang out with me. Now i just feel frustrated that its not worked out and confused why would she give me her number and let me kiss her if she only liked me as a friend. Some might think i was a bit quick to cut it off but i know when i'm being strung along and i would imagine myself going through a depression if i had to wait another week. Now i'm just left feeling frustrated and annoyed that i've been shut down and curious how long will i need to find another since this was the first girl i actually liked after my painful break up 10 months ago. The only other girl i was close to briefly was a liar and skank since she lied to me about her age and tried to use me for my money whilst offering me sex even though she was only 15 and underaged. I just feel a bit low now and gonna try again next week and not wallow in self pity.
january2010 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Link to your latest thread Huge crush on an unobtainable women.
murah989 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Everything you have just described is happening to me as well. I met a great girl over the weekend and we hit it off right away. She had an awesome taste in music and I could generally tell she was in a sweet spot in life. However, I noticed that she was very shy. Although she offered to meet up, and we even planned a "date", i was getting a feeling she wasn't that into it as I was..hence the downfall on my part. Texted too many times asking " When are we going to meet up?" etc. Guys like us like to come on too strong; it's the weakness of our personality IMO. Shy women tend to like men who are equally as shy. This gives them the opportunity to gauge their interest of you. In this case, she may have been interested, but lost it very quickly. Delete her number, block her on facebook. Do whatever it takes so that YOU don't have the urge to contact her again. Listen to Kings of Convenience. They are the perfect group to help anyones mood.
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