RandomGuy01 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 So I just started going out with this girl a week ago. We literally have just met and I think everything is going pretty well so far. The odd thing to me is that she seems to prefer that I contact her though IM as opposed to call her on the phone. The first week after our first date, she was out of town on a trip so IM seemed to be more appropriate (since she was traveling and visiting her family and I didn't want to call and interrupt her), but now that she is back, it seems she would still prefer IM. I have mentioned it to her and oddly enough, she said she preferred to talk over the phone, but then when I said I would call her, she said either one was fine and that the thing about calling is you never know if the person is busy. She is working on her MBA now so maybe IM is just easier. Still, it seemed a little strange to me. Like I said, I've just met her. We've been on two dates and I think we've had a good time. We have another date planned for Friday and she says she is very excited about it and can't wait. Any thoughts?
Grobyc Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Just tell her after an IM conversation, that you'll call her at 4pm when you get off of work or what ever. Or just say you'll call her tomorrow. I mean, Its not a huge deal. if they don't answer leave a message. "Hey just thought I'd call to see what's up, give me a call back" or whatever.
zengirl Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I'm the same way, but I prefer texting. My boyfriend calls me occasionally but usually only after he texts to see if I'm available (and only if we can't see each other for awhile and miss talking), but otherwise we do most stuff via text. It just feels like you have more "room to breathe" with a text. I hate listening to voicemails or leaving them, and I feel like I need to return them right away, but there's not always time for a phone call. With a text, I can send it back quickly, and if we need to chat later on the phone, we can.
Author RandomGuy01 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 Thanks for the replies. My main concern is that since we have just met, it seems chat is definitely easier as far as just being relaxed and talking about whatever etc. But that's actually my main concern. After we talked all week about anything and everything through IM, it seemed a little difficult to actually talk in person when we had dinner the other evening. Still, we did talk and it wasn't really uncomfortable or anything. It just felt different. Thanks for the replies. I'm sure we can figure something out. Anyone else work through this sort of thing?
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