poorguy Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Together 3 years, broke up 5 months ago. She moved on right away and pretty much moved in with him. Now they live together in a new apartment. I went NC until about a month ago when she texted me I responded. So now she emails me almost everyday from work all day. The latest is that they are not together and he's moving out as soon as he finds a place. She said he's verbally abusive and emotionally abusive and has a terrible temper-so he's OUT!!! However he's still on her FB profile pic. So why would she be telling me this whether it's true or not??? I mean they litterally just moved in togther
paleblue Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 She is just contacting you so she knows she has some place to jump too if she wants to leave him also.
AlisaMarie Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 He was her rebound after you. It didn't work so she's looking back. I am not sure why she is involving you. Maybe she wants you to feel bad for her. If she knows you'll be there for her I feel that you may be walking into a doormat situation. Don't let her control the situation. You should just tell her that it sounds like a good idea that he's moving out because nobody deserves that. Care, but don't get swept up.
Author poorguy Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 That's what I've done. I've responded to it but also said if he was abusive why would you move into a new apartment together? I told her that has got to be the stupidest thing I've ever heard. She's being very flirty also. Part of me doesn't believer her but part of me does. I just wondered why she would tell me all of that??? Why wouldn't you change your FB profile pic if you weren't together. Anyway I'm just laying back sort of hoping it will blow up bigtime. We did have a great relationship until the end
J Wool Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Keep low poorguy, keep low...remove the safety net.
circa66 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Hey, my ex gf kept our pics up on her facebook for over a couple of weeks. There was a new guy in the pic before the end and she was either uncertain or keeping up appearances. Most people would say move on, she is using you and they are probably right. Most women need a few months alone time to get there heads on right and this one seems like she NEEDS someone. You have to make the decision, not any of us. Are you healed and can you handle another break up with her or her going back to him. She may complain about the abuse but something is attracting her to him and that just doesnt go away. Good Luck in whatever happens
Author poorguy Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 She said she was sort of stuck in the apartment with him until he finds a new place. I've really kept it all perfectly cool with her. I mean it's been over 5 months so although I do have feelings for her it's easy for me to be very casual and nonchalant with her. I just wonder ya know. I just realized within the past 2 weeks she's emailed me over a 100 times...I've had exes come back around before but it took longer than 5 months. None of them though have emailed me 100 times and bitch about their new guy and then got super sexual with me...
coltsfan1 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 she is using everything in her bag of tricks to keep you on the hook, your so close to walking away and she knows it. Just stop talking to her or tell her to call you when the guy moves out. See what happens then, cause Im willing to bet he isn't going anywhere for a bit. Put the power in your hands leave her with the feeling that you are indifferent and walk. you will see where her head and heart is then!!
Wilie Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Together 3 years, broke up 5 months ago. She moved on right away and pretty much moved in with him. Now they live together in a new apartment. I went NC until about a month ago when she texted me I responded. So now she emails me almost everyday from work all day. The latest is that they are not together and he's moving out as soon as he finds a place. She said he's verbally abusive and emotionally abusive and has a terrible temper-so he's OUT!!! However he's still on her FB profile pic. So why would she be telling me this whether it's true or not??? I mean they litterally just moved in togther Your PlanB buddy....
coltsfan1 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 that sucks to hear for any man or woman.... PlanB is a lonely island!!! trust me I know im living on it right now....
Am4Real Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 She said she was sort of stuck in the apartment with him until he finds a new place. I've really kept it all perfectly cool with her. I mean it's been over 5 months so although I do have feelings for her it's easy for me to be very casual and nonchalant with her. I just wonder ya know. I just realized within the past 2 weeks she's emailed me over a 100 times...I've had exes come back around before but it took longer than 5 months. None of them though have emailed me 100 times and bitch about their new guy and then got super sexual with me... I believe in your heart you know what she is up to. After all you know her better than any of us in this forum. You likely suspect she is falling backwards and is feeling alone now that she is parting from her rebound man. So far 100% of the poster here more or less are saying those words…what other convincing would be helpful for you?
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