Urge to Break NC... Bad Idea?

[AlisaMarie]

Well, it's been 2 weeks today. I was with him for over a year followed by 4 months of on and off (him completely controlling the switch). I really can't stop thinking of him. It's not so much that I want him back- it's almost that I just miss him in my life. We were so close, and I loved him and his son so much. Due to advice from a previous post, I may have discovered that my ex suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder. He showed all of the symptoms throughout our journey together. I was always loving and supportive, but he would just turn on me. When it was good it was great- when it was bad- it was bad. I just want to ask him how he is- He was always the one to contact me first but this time he's not. This is the longest we have ever went without talking. HELP, what would you do? Honestly?

[bl22]

Seriously dont contact him. He needs to contact you otherwise hes not missing you and doesnt want to hear from you trust me.

 

If you contact him you will only get hurt even more. You need to give him time, you need to recover and so does he, when you both have (which will probably be a whilee) you can think of the posibility of friends...but thats way off.

[AlisaMarie]

Irrational thinking, but when he questioned his feelings for me the last time, I ended it and told him he was dead to me. I was so emotionally drained from the relationship. But what if he is thinking the same thing, if she misses me, she'll contact me. Well I do! So now what??

[bl22]

I was in your position not too long ago, (few week back) i did the whole txting 'i miss you' etc etc

 

all i got was 'please stop this, i need time!'

 

You aint going to get what you want by texting him, not right now anyway.

[iamawesome]

Burden of contact is not yours. 2 weeks is a blink of an eye, give it more time and see how you feel later. Right now your emotions may get the best of you, you can't allow that.