hearttobreak Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Can anyone recommend any good books on dating and confidence for men? I have read some of David Deangelo's stuff, and I am surprised on how he suggests to treat women. His belief is basically going back to the primal instinct and be pushy, cocky and a bit arrogant. Create the sexual tension and stuff. One would think that would have the opposite effect. No? Any other books I should check out?
Green Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I should write a book. Problem is it would be really short. The thing is you just need to motivate yourself to ACTION. What that means is you have to 1) Approach Women you find attractive 2) Talk (flirt with them) 3) Ask them out (sugest dinner or what ever then get their contact info NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND) 4) TOUCH/KISS ( If you have romantic intentions then SHOW THEM on the date by touching <grabing their hand, touching their arm ect... and KISSING them, don't ask just try for a kiss when you feel the mood is right at a minimum before you say goodbye for the nght) Acting like a castrated non sexual version of yourself can only hurty you. Steps 1-4 should be repeated till you find a girl you want to MAKE YOUR GIRLFRIEND. Steps 1-4 mean you are trying. You see pretty women I'm guessing every day whether it be at the MALL, PARK, LIBRARY, BANK LINE, SUPERMARKET, Friends party ect. you get the point... and you can't let FEAR of REJECTION or FEAR of what people might think or FEAR of the LET DOWN of not suceeding stop you. All men who do bad with women DON'T TRY I am convinced of that. As for flirting and WHAT DO I SAY... Well you SAY WHAT EVER YOU WANT... ther is no wrong answer. You just need to present YOUR BEST SELF... DOn't go on a first date and be the INSECURE, CASTRATED, LOSER VERSION of yourself.... Be the version of yourself that you want to be. BE PASIONATE about the things you like INCLUDING AND MOST IMPORTANTLY THE GIRL YOU TOOK OUT ON A DATE (that means touching her and kissing her) BE YOURSELF the version that HAS FUN ON A DATE WITH A GIRL and doesn't worry or fear rejection... Just enjoy the date and don't cry about it if you don't get another. This mindset will be enjoyable and lead to better sucess and less pain in a failure... because really you lost nothing
Sivok Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Don't read dating books. Read books that focus on improving yourself, allowing you to feel more comfortable in your skin, helping you become more confident, outgoing, and be able to tell who is trying to play you. 4 books I recommend: BUILDING CONFIDENCE/CHARACTER 1)Mastering Your Hidden Self - Serge Khali King 2)How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie WATCHING OUT FOR MANIPULATORS 1)The 48 Laws of Power - Robert Greene 2)The Art of Seduction - Robert Greene Mastering Your Hidden Self and The 48 Laws of Power had the most powerful effect on me. The latter made a lot of sense in figuring out why some people do the things they do and the idea of 'games'
Lemontang Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Actually the Deangelo stuff is pretty good, also read some of the other authors he talks about. One thing you need to do is keep at it. In short practice. It's like a comedian, not all of the big ones started naturally funny, but they kept at it and can now drop jokes like it's no ones business. As clique as this sounds. I used to be that guy in the corner always stuck for words never knowing what to say, these days I drop jokes faster than a gun slinger & I don't even think twice about what I've said (people comment on how quick witted I am). Even now I semi insult the current girlfriend (playfully of course) but follow up with a save of some kind and make a point of it eg, Her "I love you" Me "Yeah I love me too, thank god for mirrors" or after I've kissed her I rub her chin and say "Well at least one of us shaved today"...this works a treat to on a first kiss. In short she'll be like WTF? But it takes off a lot of the follow up pressure from both people as well and keeps things fun.
refurb Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 http://www.amazon.com/Mode-One-Women-REALLY-Thinking/dp/1591138973 It's not "game". It's about presenting yourself and your intentions in a straightforward manner. It's useful in more than just dating, but also in life in general. I don't think any women who reads the book would disagree with it's message. RF
GivenUp0083 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 There's a book by a guy who has studied women for over 30 years. He goes by the pen name "Doc Love" which is cheesy, but he's legit. His book is called "The Dating Dictionary" or "The System". It's a great book to motivate you to ask out women and get phone numbers, but it also advises you to not put all your eggs in one basket and date as many women as you can so you can do the weeding out instead of getting weeded out. Basically you want to find caring, giving, flexible women and this book shows you how to date women to find out early if they fit these qualities. It's a numbers game so it'll motivate you to ask out women at every opportunity and read the blow-offers from the serious girls with great qualities.
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