Would u get revenge on ur cheating ex who happens to be married with a wife?

[inthagong]

I was dating a married man, I am gay, and proud of my sexuality, he wasn't..... he is seoerating from his wife, but whilst with me, cheated and completely lied behind her back, time and again....

She is now struggling to get a lone to pay hime out, so he can move out, he is so money orientated...

They have 2 small children... he suddenly dumped me then bad mouthed me to a mutual friend, so our little secret wouldn't rear its ugly head...it has now, Kharma my dear friend...

 

Anyway I have compromising photos of us together I want to send his wife, if she sees these, he wont be getting any kind of payment...

 

Should I send them before she goes broke or leave it??? I think shes just as stupid as him for staying with him....

[desertIslandCactus]

If they are about to divorce, she must buy him out, evidence would be considered in the settlement: I would see to it that she (alone) received the pictures.

[Lauriebell82]

Should I send them before she goes broke or leave it??? I think shes just as stupid as him for staying with him....

 

Before you are too quick to ruin his W's life, YOU were with MM as well. If he hadn't have broken up with him, you'd STILL be with him. So I'm sorry to say, we could say the same thing about you...

 

But anyway, what good would come out of his wife seeing these pictures? You are no prince in this either, you got involved with a MM in the closet...what did you expect to happen? I think you should leave it alone. They are getting a divorce, why add insult to injury?

[Citizen Erased]

If you're doing it because you think she's being treated unfairly and shouldn't have to pay him out given his affair, then sure, he's a douche and deserves it.

 

But I doubt you're doing it for any other reason than to get back at him. She is a human being and you will be hurting her for no reason other than to satisfy yourself.

[spice4life]

Actually, just because you are gay doesn't make your A any different than the heterosexual ones you are reading about here. You were involved in an"A", it is that simple. The dynamics are the same.

 

As far as his BS is concerned, she may see him for the scoundral he is and to her it might be worth it to buy him out. Money may be no object as long as it means she won't have to be married to him anymore. That was the case in my divorce. I didn't care what it cost me or what kind of sacrefice I had to make as long as it meant I didn't have to be married to him anymore.

 

The truth is, what ever happens between the two of them in THEIR divorce is really none of your business. It's between them and no one else. Besides, you continued to be involved with him while knowing he was married. You need to take responsibility for your own choices. It is not like you didn't know he was married. Accept your part in this and take the high road and walk away. You will be much better off in the end.

 

Don't concern yourself with her money issues - that is on her because it is her marriage.

[pureinheart]

I was dating a married man, I am gay, and proud of my sexuality, he wasn't..... he is seoerating from his wife, but whilst with me, cheated and completely lied behind her back, time and again....

She is now struggling to get a lone to pay hime out, so he can move out, he is so money orientated...

They have 2 small children... he suddenly dumped me then bad mouthed me to a mutual friend, so our little secret wouldn't rear its ugly head...it has now, Kharma my dear friend...

 

Anyway I have compromising photos of us together I want to send his wife, if she sees these, he wont be getting any kind of payment...

 

Should I send them before she goes broke or leave it??? I think shes just as stupid as him for staying with him....

 

You know, it's your deal if being gay works for you. I say this because I know you won't be offended because you say your proud of being gay.

 

I realise this is not a debate on the "gay thing", although I just had two dear friends of mine die from aids. Please tell her should you contract the aids virus and know for a fact it was during the time you were with her H.

 

You sound extremely vindictive. Karma huh....

[myname]

I understand where you're coming from, cos I have felt a lot of bitterness and had revenge fantasies myself, even though I called no contact on him.

 

But, be careful of yourself, it's ok to feel all this stuff, but try to step back from acting on it right now. You're understandably feeling upset and betrayed, it doesn't matter why or who's right or wrong and it probably isn't that black and white anyway.

 

Once you've acted there's no going back, you might get a whole lot more painful consequences from it.

 

Just hold off on this until you're feeling less strongly and thinking a bit clearer.

 

all the best.